Dealing with the death of someone close? How to react?

Question

I was wondering if this is common or not. A very close personal friend of mine died 2 days ago. We grew up together, went to school together, hanged out together. When he died on Thursday, it was one of the saddest days of my life. It isn't fair that he died in his late twenties. Life will never be the same knowing he is not around anymore.

His parents are naturally feeling destroyed and are inconsolable. I have been hurting a lot since and unable to find joy in anything but if I find anything funny - like when watching TV I feel massively guilty for a single moment of happiness. Do most people have those moments?

Answer 1

I do. I lost my mother in the end of March of this year. I try to act as though nothing is wrong, for the sake of the rest of my family and friends, but yes. I know how you feel. There are just moments when I have to go into my room and lock the door and have a good cry.

Losing someone close is always hard. If you are religious then you have the consolation of them being in a better place. It will hurt, I don't know how long, I'm trying to figure that out myself.

Answer 2

Yes

Answer 3

FIRST OF ALL LET ME TELL YOU I'm SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS OF A FRIEND, yes this is normal to grief like this, just by talking about him helps

Answer 4

well my uncle and my grandpa died its was really sad i cried its was so sad but i kept my head up high and said my uncle is wacthing over me and hes in a better place you just have to move on and try not to think about it and be strong and dont cry remeber keep your head up high ive been through alot my mom is gone i wont  see her in 5 months my dad lives far away so i learned on my own

Answer 5

Yes, this is normal what your feeling. There is no set time to fully recover from the loss of someone.  You will have your good and bad days, so don't feel guilty at all for the times you feel happy.  It can take years to actually get over.  However, I can promise you as time goes on, it will get easier.  Be Encouraged!  

Isaiah 57:1

Good people pass away; the godly often die before their time.

      But no one seems to care or wonder why. No one seems to understand that God is protecting them from the evil to come.

Answer 6

Everyone is different. Your normal. I just remember that I'm here doing what they would want me to do. Not to be so sad.

Answer 7

sure  

Answer 8

What you are experiencing sounds perfectly normal. It is part of the greiving process. Perhaps it may help to try and talk about some of the lovely/happy memories you have of your friend with your family etc or even his family and share these memories and remminisce about how great a friend he was. This helps to acknowledge the celebration of his life, rather than just the sadness of his loss.

I am sorry you have to go through this. Best of luck. It will make you stronger thats for sure.

Answer 9

everyone deals with it in their own way ...I had my moments where I would be okay and enjoying life and then you think about the fact of never being able to call or see them again and you just break down. That will get easier with time but just deal with things the way you need to ..no one can tell you a right or wrong way! Don't feel guilty about enjoying life because they wouldn't want that for you. If you passed away would you want people holding back on there personal happiness for the sake of you? Probably not! If you find something funny, then laugh, it's the best medicine!! I find being around other people help otherwise I think too much and drive myself crazy!!