Death of a child in the NICU with my son?

Question

The past 2 weeks by son Aiden has been in the NICU. I met a mother that come to find out we went to high school together. Well her son passed away early this morning from oxygen being cut off to his brain from having so many seizures last night. Well i want to comfort her some how or way. What do i say or do to make her see I'm here to talk to her.

Answer 1

dont say much unless she wants to talk. just ask if its okay to hug her and tell her that ANYTHING she needs you are there for support and help. if she ever needs or wants to talk or wants a friend you will be there

Answer 2

How sad. Something like this happened to me, except the other way around. A friend and I had our babies the same week, except my baby girl didn't make it, hers did. It was incredibley hard for me to see her, her baby or even hear it down the hall. I didn't go to her shower, or talk to her for quite a while. And all she said to me is "I understand this is hard, I'll be here when your ready." And that was the only thing she could have said to me. We are now talking and I've babysat her little girl. So from her stand point, I'd say just tell her whenever she's ready.  

Answer 3

wow that sure is tough. when that special moment comes, i'd tell her maybe in a quieter voice "I am there for you sweetie whatever u may need u can come to me". i do think it would prolly make it much harder for her when she sees u nursing or hadnling ur baby, so id suggest dont show off ur baby as much in front of her?..thats so sad. good luck with everything