Death of loved ones?

Question

Asalaamo aleikum,

Have you ever had a loved one die close to you? How did you really deal with the loss?

Wasalam.

Answer 1

wa alaikum alsalam:

yes i've been through that .. my mom and i were very close to each other .. she died 3 yrs ago and it still feels like yesterday !  .. i can't say i was able to deal with it cuz i haven't .. i couldn't let her go ! no one day pass i don't remember the good days i spent on with her .. and the fear of losing my dad too !

but it becomes a little easier when taking refuge in allah and talking to ppl whom u trust !

but when u realize that our loved ones actually never leave us .. they r right here in our heart .. only then we understand that they belong to something higher (Allah) and their time had come to an end .. and they r free to leave this world to return to their creator!

'no one loses anyone..

because no one owns anyone..

that's the true experience of freedom..

having the most important things ( family, friends,etc)without awning them !!'

Answer 2

It's never easy.  It takes a lot of time and you have to allow yourself to grieve.  It helps if you have a friend you can talk to but you may not feel like talking for some time.  If you can't talk to a friend, try a counselor.  They are neutral and you don't have to worry about their feelings as you would do with a friend.  The pain of loss can't be got rid of overnight.  It took me many months to get over my own loss.  Please be patient and things will ease over time.  

Answer 3

Get drunk then move on................life doesn't stop because someone died.

Answer 4

Yes but you know what, if you were truly intact spiritually and mentally healthy, you'd handle it just fine.

It's because of our obsession with the physical here and now that we go absolutely nuts, that and it's always hard to lose a loved one.

Answer 5

Well I have lost of loved one, but unfortunately I she was out of state, as her and her family moved years ago. I dealt with it by going to the funteral home and paying the respect to the parents. I felt sad and awkward then and truthfully, I just wanted out. I loved my friend and listening to her mother make speaches about her dying was really sad, but I feel I did the right thing by going. And at least I saw how her mother was dealing with it and we were all together and not alone. I guess the best thing is to talk about the person to others and share memories of her or him. And what that man just said about getting drunk and moving on might sound harsh but I am sure your friend would have wanted you to be happy and still enjoy your life; I am sure my friend would. So having a drink and relaxing is fine, but still try to remember the person and the good times.

Answer 6

Yes,abt month ago.....Am still in disbelieve,I actually still think he is alive.....is so so so hard.....he is in my mind 24/7.......I'd be out n something would remind me of him n I'd start puring tears.......everynight I'd cry.......

Never in my wildest dream I would have thought I'd lose him

I feel crushEd

I pray4Allah2make me stronger ever daayBut so hardHe was my soulmate.....my bestfriend........

Ya Allah

Am still grieving,and will be 4 long time

May allah rest his soul in peace

Answer 7

Look at my username

24/08/08 was the day my grandma passed away. she was really sick and had a chest infection. she was in hospital for a long time and allah swt finally stopped her suffering. It's really hard to get over the death of ones really close to you. You'll cry and pray to allah swt but thats all you can do because He wont bring them back. Have patience, life is a test. May Allah swt grant our loved ones jannah ameen.

Answer 8

ALEXIS DE TOCQVILLE (FRENCH THINKER/HISTORIAN)

"I studied the Kuran a great deal ... I came away from that study with the conviction that by and large there have been few religions in the world as deadly to men as that of Muhammed"

Answer 9

inna lillah wa inna ilayhi raji'oon

To Allah we belong and to Him we will return.

I was saddened, really saddened, but I didn't cry since it wasn't a really close relative.

Answer 10

Marahaba!!! Yes, it is terrible, what you can do is to get your mind off the pain by just thinking about all of the great things this person has done in their life.

Wasalam, aleiki