Decent shelter from domestic abuse??

Question

A good friend of mine is in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend/fiance and desperately needs an exit strategy. The situation is extremely complicated and includes such dynamics as an infant child, a recent eviction from their previous place of residence due to an infraction he committed, empty promises of marriage, severe emotional abuse, rage, etc. They now live with her mother who has come to embrace him as a son (despite knowledge of what has been happening. She feels she can be there for both, without disregarding her daughter's quandary, seeing that "he's a good boy; he just has a problem."). It's awkwad for my firend to break up with him, due to their living circumstances, and she doesn't want to put him out, as he has no place to go, but their relationship is no longer salvageable. Everyone unanimously agrees that her home, i.e. her mom's house, is an unhealthy climate for her and her child. She has no money (she's in college), and no one wants to see her and the baby in one of those appalling shelter homes. Are there any decent specialized living facilities for people in these kinds of situations? Some place clean, someplace where she can continue her studies, get her life back on track, something kind of like a higher scale Job Core, but more catered to women with children? Like the housing center in the film Enough, perhaps. (Section 8 and House of Ruth are not applicable options for her situation.) I would greatly appreciate any information and insight you could contribute. Many thanks.

Answer 1

Well it sounds pretty sad that mom can't see past this a little farther. I understand her wanting to help cause he is human too but there is a thing called tough love. You say ect. so does this mean physical abuse cause there is a center for him it's called jail! Shelters for woman and children are not necessarily dirty ect. but there are rules and she will not feel free at all which just compounds what she is going through since mom has a home where she could be.Mom needs to put her foot down and say he gets into anger treatment or has to find a new place to live.

Answer 2

it is time for her to bite the bullet and kick him out

her mother is not the one living with him and is not the one being abused

Answer 3

Think about contacting some of the large church groups in the area. Most metro area churches have shelters for abused women and children.  Be aware that these places have very strict rules and expect the woman to find somwhere else to live after 3 months.