Deciding wedding date

Question

I am getting engaged in a few weeks, we now have to decide when the wedding will take place. The thing is my family is based in the states and his family is mostly outside the states. His family wants the wedding to be during the first week of june next year but there are two weddings taking place in the same month during the first two weeks. There are going to be more than one function during my wedding as dictated by traditions so given that there are other weddings going on, there wont be anyone or less people will be able to come! His family says that they are unable to take any other time off other than june but i do not want to have my wedding taking place at the same time as one of my friends, its rude and people should not choose who goes to which wedding. How should I approach this?

Answer 1

If his family REALLY wants to be there they WILL take the time off. The wedding date should be the best for you and your fiancee

Answer 2

You pick the date, if they come they come if they dont they dont. I hope everything turns out okay at the end! Congrats on the engangement!

Answer 3

as long as they send wedding presents you shouldnt have to worry

Answer 4

I think you should explain that you are unable to have the wedding in June as you already have a number of other weddings to attend at that time. Ask them if there is any other month that they would be able to make it. If there is no other month, suggest waiting until the next June a year later. If they don't like either of those choices then just have the wedding when you want to. If they really want to make it to the wedding they will.

Answer 5

My first question is how are you talking to family and friends about your wedding.....When your not getting engaged for two weeks????

Next, I think you are in a rough spot. Although, I shall point out a few things: You are a free thinking American girl! You are in charge of your life. And Love only conquers all if you communicate with the one you love!

Talk to your man! But remember this is about you and him, not his family, not your family, not either of your friends!

You were a little vauge on the "traditions", but you are making decisions based on the needs of both of you! So let Both of you fix this without anymore outside input!