Okay, well my dear friend and I have gone through a range of ups and downs, but still manage to always come together in peace. Our relationship is he has been there for him and I am there for him. But this time he is quite depressed and well his depression arrays of so many issues which presents circumstances and his life being quite difficult. But also situations have restored in one complicating the relationship he has with his family, in other words he has been neglected, abandoned and disowned. Well his "friends" and i state friends in quotes because i would not consider his friends though we get along as true and real friends, as i know they influence negativity actions especially knowing he is in a vulnerable, to participate in. The most difficult thing here is that he lives in the same environment as them, as their is a number of them there and not even one i can clearly outline is strong or optimistic.Yes, his friends have not had a life whereas it is optimistic, so their environment is pretty much full of negativity. So i am practically the only person in his life there who is very much positive and have been told by many i am bringing such vibes, understanding, awareness etc.
But here I am, and I feel so defeated because this is someone who is so depressed, lost and confused, and here i am wanting to be there and also show him there is light. Also although life may have presented negative elements, does not mean he should live down that path. Problem is i do not get to see him that much as i do understand he is trying his best to get his life in order, but knowing he is in bad company and is going back to bad environment full of negativity keeps me very concerned. As sometimes i can feel in my soul and heart times when he is not okay from his side.
Also it is great he feels able to confide in me about deeper things and as soon as we are far from his environment. For instance when he is walking me to the bus stop he has told me that he does not trust his friends, wants to sort himself out with getting another place of residence and dropping communication as they bring problems and they are too much trouble for him..and he does not need such people of negativity. Not only has he said this once to me but more than three times in different ways and because his friends stick to him like glue it makes it that much complicated, especially living in the same environment. But knowing he is not safe, or should i say feel comfortable makes me that much anxious.
But the question is how and what things can i do to help brush positivity enough for him to be strong and his own leader to fight through the difficulties he is going through?
I know you can't make someone be a certain way and change comes from within but through actions and words you can brush of positivity. But how and what can i do to help him.
I would appreciate answers from those who have been suffers of this and those who have managed to help those successfully in ways they managed to help.
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