Depressed, broke, unemployed and losing my mind.

Question

I worked at my last job for a little over 3 years as a retail manager. I made decent money and was comfortable. About 6 weeks ago the company went under. I have so much experience in customer service and retail management but I cannot for the life of me get a job. It's starting to look bleak. I'm now broke, without a job, and falling deeper and deeper into debt. I hate to say it, but work brings happiness. I'm not asking for job-advice, but simply advice on how to stick it out. Thanks!

Answer 1

I like to share this fable when someone feels that their situation is hopeless. I believe just changing your mindset and not giving into the fear will help you find direction and answers.

The Old Man

Once in ancient China there lived an old man whose way of looking at life differed from that of the other people in his village. He never made quick judgements as to whether what happened to him was good or bad. His philosophy was "wait and see."

One day the old man's horse ran away. Since it was his only horse, his neighbors felt sorry for him and they were quick to tell him so.

"Tsk, tsk, such a misfortune," they lamented, shaking their heads.

The old man's answer surprised them. "But how do you know it's bad?" he said.

A few days later his horse came back. With it were two wild horses. Now the old man had three horses. When the neighbors saw this, they congratulated him on his good fortune.

"But how do you know it's good?" he said.

The next day, while attempting to break in one of the wild horses, the man's son fell off and broke his leg.

Once again the neighbors came to express sympathy. "Such bad luck!" they commiserated.

"But how do you know it's bad?" the old man asked them.

The neighbors looked at him in disgust. Was he crazy? They decided not to have anything more to do with him.

The next day a warlord came through the village and took all the able-bodied young men off to war.

All but the old man's son.

Answer 2

I think the other answerers did a good job answering your question. I just wanted to say, cheer up and good luck.  

Answer 3

Hi Brandon, i m jobless too for months and still looking out. Like me, it is not easy to get a job now especially for a manager post cos the potential employer will think that we wont stay long even so for a down graded lesser pay job.

Don't fret. Just be patience and persever. Cut down all the necessary expenses now. You have years of working experience. Better than those who are fresh graduates right?

Take up some exercise cos it will release happy hormones and you will feel great after sweating. Don't crop yourself at home cos it will get you depression. I been through this before.

Answer 4

Brandon, the best thing to do is get a job to make ends meet right now, and while doing so get a better job.

You have the experience so I'm sure you'll find something good.

Have you looked into unemployment? Try that, it'll get some bills paid and get you some breathing room.

Best of luck man, I've been there myself and feel your pain.