Depressed 14 year old?

Question

Hi i am Jenni.

i am asking this question on my cousins account.

Im 14 years old and very confused about life.

Heres the story:

My father passed away when i was 9 months old of meningococal and i never knew him, up until about 12 months ago i never really thought about it but in the last 12 months i have been really upset and angry about it, i have lost my beliefs in god because i cant seem to find a reason as to why it had to be my dad, he never did anything wrong in his life, yet god let him die.

i have also started cutting myself because i have found an interest in pain, i cut deeper and deeper everytime because it is more painful, all i want is to die, i always think of just killing myself, but i dont because i know the people i would leave behind would be upset. i dont have a good realtionship with my mum and i dont want to talk to her or anyone else about this, i can help myself i just need some advice and i have no brothers or sisters.

help anyone?

Answer 1

The teenage years are difficult and when you are suffering from depression as well the world can seem very black.  

Your friend really needs to talk to someone, we all need to talk our problems out with others or they overwhelm us,  if not a family member or friend then there is help out there, If you are in the UK there is Childline 0800 1111 is their free telephone number, no one there will judge you they will help you talk through your problems and find the answers needed to help.

Take a look at the following websites for more help.  Good luck

Answer 2

You need to either tell your mum or maybe a trusted teacher in school.  I think you may need to see a doctor also, as you may be clinically depressed and possibly may need medication, a doctor could also arrange some grief counseling.  

In the meantime try to stop cutting yourself, I know its hard to do, but its only a temporary solution to your problems.  You don't want to be left later in life with horrendous scars.

Good luck.

Answer 3

When I was younger someone I cared about very much was taken from me. I cut myself good but lucky it didn't kill me. Chances are your father was much better than mine. My father was a sick s.o.b. child molester who I dream of hurting in some very bad ways, but this would just feed a  fire, no point there.  If I'm going to spend my time doing anything, it will be the opposite of dwelling on this garbage. One thing I should have learned a long time ago, patience is absolutely necessary, the need for constant entertainment can be replaced with your own imagination, and if there's nothing to do at all still, find someone you can do something with to pass the time until you find someone better and so on.

Answer 4

www.somazone.com

Answer 5

There are lot of people whom father passed away in early stages of life, it doesn't mean that all those people should die. Bigger problems than you people are facing. You have not faced those till now.

Parents only can give birth to you. Rest breath is in the hand of god. If you die today you still have to remain on earth as soul up to age defined by the god. At that time more problems will held among you, but you can't handle them as you r not physically present. But now you can handle. Many people can found today near graveyard spending there life as soul, they are fully disturbed and also sometime disturbing others.

Live that life if you want to!!

Remember: Weaker people like those who don't take adequate food or become weaker by doing s*x or extra work always try to die themselves. Are you one of them?

Why God let your father die? i will tell you.

Suppose any body's father is thinking something extra wrong which is not good for anyone which god only knows. God bring all those guys from earth and you will also do the same if you were god to save your other childs.

Do your studies and earn more to remove most of your difficulties by giving charity to poor ones of African and Asian continents.

One thing more god give a very pleasant gift if you remove someone's fear with the help of your power (political / wealth power). So gain that first not cut yourself. Complete your homework first then cut yourself after becoming famous in our world

Answer 6

I'm so sorry, this is so sad. You really need to talk to someone that you trust. It may really help, you never know. Counseling may help as well. Whenever you want to cut, try to do something to distract yourself (call a friend, take a shower, watch TV, play with a pet, exercise) or maybe do something that will express the pain (punch a bed/pillow/something soft, scribble on a paper, break paper plates- it sounds stupid, but at this point, anything is worth a shot). I really hope you find something that helps you as well as talking to a counselor. No one should have to go through life depressed... life's too short for that.

Answer 7

it sounds like your dad was a good man. maybe God needed him in heaven. I hope that clears your mind. I don't think God has people die as a bad thing.  

Answer 8

ur not depresssed u have a smiley face at the end of ur name ahahaha ps CUT 4EVA EMO RULES

Answer 9

same here except my dad chose to leave us and i hardly talk to my mom.i think that you should at least try to go to your mom if you dont want to then dont just talk to a friend or keep a notebook with you and write everything in it that is hurting you.if you really feel like you need to talk to someone then you should go to your mom..i too think of death or running away but i stop and think that doin this aint gonna solve anything.um you should really stop cutting yourself.

Answer 10

I used to cut/burn myself too. I understand the methods of not really thinking about something/someone, and then someday you find yourself full of rage/despair that's so much bigger than other people's and you just explode, but even that physical manifestation is merciful compared to the torture you feel, inflicted by your self.  Suicide is a wonderful fantasy, I know. But reply to me ASAP. I'm no counselor or therapist, just a fellow sufferer/suicidist that read your words and wants to talk.