Depressed Mom. Help please!

Question

My mom is so depressed and angry. She shouts and complains about everything everyday. Her mother passed away when she was 10, and her father completley ignores her. Her sisters are competitive and materialistic, so she is devoid of family- except me and my 3 sisters. Fast swims make her happy, but swim is over now. I can't take this anymore- the emotional stress. My family is religious btw. And she used to be so happy and nice until last year. Help(and no physcologist please) Thank you

Answer 1

If your family is religious, hopefully, you are involved in a congregation or other community of faith.  Encourage your mother to go talk to the pastor.  Maybe something happened last year that set her back from progress she was already making.  Also, a pastor will be able to help determine if she needs more help than what he is trained to provide.

If she won't go, due to stubborn pride or whatever, then you go.  People who are too proud to seek the help they need are burdens to the ones they love.  You, being one of those people, would accordingly, need somebody to whom you could talk.

Answer 2

se just needs to go to her local doctor and tell him/her what is wrong, and the mood swings she is having. its a simple pill that will help her alot, trust me, she is NOT alone in this

Answer 3

Maybe if you and your sisters go to like a retreat or sumthing

My grandma goes to religous retreats at different churchs and they are really cool.

Plus maybe just spending time with her daughters will help.

Answer 4

You said she was happy until last year. What happened to make her in the depression mode? Perhaps she is going through menopause.

If we knew what made her unhappy perhaps we could help more.

Answer 5

Hey hun I am so sorry you are going through that it must be hard for ALL of you..

I really dont know what to say but if you are religious and have a regular church you attend maybe she could speak with the pastor or get involved in things at church (maybe meet new friends)

Also pray for her (I will too)

Maybe she needs to meet a man sometimes women feel a little lonely, its got to be hard being the soul provider for your family!

Just support her and encourage her to go out more

I hope things get better for you!

Answer 6

i gather there is no husband to help her through this? you say no psychologists, but you also say you are religious-can your minister help? quite often they counsel their parishioners-maybe he will help your mom. also, if mom is very depressed, her family doctor can prescribe medication for her to take for depression. she doesnt need to go to a psychologist for it.  

Answer 7

Okay, unfortunately you will have to take it until you are old enough to move out.  

You cannot change or control your mother and her moods.  I do not know what fast swim is but I am guessing it was some sort of class or competition that she used to take you to.

You are not responsible for her or how she behaives

all you can do is keep your distance and try to help her

I feel your pain and frustration and hope you will be okay

if you have a religious counsler you can talk to that would be great

Answer 8

your mother is suffering from feelings of abandonment from her childhood...from your writing I am assuming that she is happy when you are competing and winning swimming races? This is because your success and relationship (daughter/mother) brings her sense of pride and togetherness ie MY daughter is succeeding..this is compensating for her lack of connection she had as a child to her parents...you wrote no "physcologist please" in help, I am again assuming you mean, you don;t want nay answers about "psychological" help...I hate to tell you this but that is the root of her problem and to face it and deal with it in a healthy manner is the way to get her to feel better and treat you well...most people lash out and attack the ones they care about the most because of lack of retribution form the bond they have..also if you are dependent on her, she will lash out on you because there isn't;t much you can do about it..I would do my best to try to get into some kind of therapy, I would try to appeal to her sense of a mother to say it's hurts YOU her daughter, to see her this way and would she please get help to help you and her and your sisters....just know that this things you are writing here will one day rear their ugly head one day in your life, maybe not today ot tomorrow but one day, be careful, be safe and do your bets to have a happy home life, it's the base for any real relationships you will have in life.......best of luck....

Answer 9

first of all, I am not a psychologist by any sense of the imagination, but what triggered her to become mean?  I lost my parents and I grieve but I was in my 30's and 40's when I lost my folks.  She sounds blessed to have you and your 3 sisters.   It sounds like she is competing with her sisters.  I would try to be just a little more patient, and a little more tolerable.  I would suggest that she try to get some help but I would let an adult suggest that.  Not her sisters, maybe a friend.  I know that God gives you what you can handle and that you are to honor your mother and father.  keep praying to God. I believe that He will help you.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  If you need to talk to anyone, drop me an email