Depressed abusive cousin. Should I help her?

Question

I have a cousin who has recently become depressed because her boyfriend has moved away to another country (war). and she can't get any contact with him. It's been a year since they departed

Oh, and I'm 14, turning 15 soon.

I hate this cousin. She is 22. She used to baby sit me everyday and she would smack me, spank me, choke me if I bothered her even a little. I told my parents this, but I still had to get stuck with her.

My parents are too busy to help her, and her parents are far away and can't come to help her. Even if school starts, I still have to go there afterschool and help her out.

She is also seeing a psychiatrist.

She also has this type of depression where she gets angry. I mean extreme anger. I'm very scared. How do I help her out? My parents tell me I must hug her, and help her in as many ways possible. But I can't bring myself to do it. I hate her. What if she still hates me, even if I try to help her? Is there ever a chance that she'll take a knife and kill me when I'm watching tv?

Answer 1

Be safe in a safe place and obey your feelings. Yes there may be a lot of danger. If her vocabulary decays and she doesnt make sense avoid her .

Answer 2

BE VERY UNDERSTANDING EVEN IF U DONT UNDERSTAND

Answer 3

I can't believe your parents aren't considering your feelings about this!  This is someone who has abused and emotionally scared their child and they send you into her arms?  I think it's time you let your parents know that they are making a wrong choice by pushing you to do this.  If that ***** can't find support someplace it's probably because she was mean to everyone else and is reaping what she has sown.  I say let the ***** suffer alone until she learns to be nice to people.  It's ok to hate child abusers.  It really is.  You r feelings are not out of order they are perfectly on target.  You may never get over what she did to you as child abuse isn't something that people just get over.  Trust your feelings and stay away from that *****.

Answer 4

Omg! You're being very mean. First of all, hate is a very strong word. You even use it too loosely. That's bad. No matter what she did to you, which kinda mean, you should understand that she's going through a tough time. She need's all the help and support she cud get. I know that you might have some kind of anger toward's her but she does sound like she has sum kind of problem. Other then the depression. Also don't put so much pressure on yourself to help, you're only 14 years old. Just be nice to her and supportive and try letting your anger go way. And if you still do feel scared around her tell your parent's. Tell em that you don't want to be mean but your kind of scared of her.

Answer 5

you can't help her... if you hate her you can't but try to understand her and not to treat her in a bad way...

Depression makes you more angry and agressive... when you don't want to be like this...

so just don't show her ur hate ... she needs love