Depressed and I don't know what to do?

Question

Well, I'm going to make this short- I'm terribly depressed and I have no clue what to do about it. I'm 13. I don't have many friends- I don't get along with people that easily. =( I've only got 2 really good friends. One of them knows I'm depressed and the other one doesnt have a clue. =( I've been deniying that I'm depressed for a year now and, after admitting it to my best friend who already knew and being yelled at by her and such, finally noticed I really need to do something about it. [And this was only a half hour ago]

I have no clue what to do. Nothing in my life seems to be going well. I don't live with my mother or father, neither of them even like me...so I live with my grandparents. I'm...just not liking life anymore. I don't know if it's the fact that I know my parents hate me or that I don't have many friends, that I'm teased and ridiculed by almost everyone at my school...or what. I just can't figure out why I'm so depressed. I have NO CLUE what to do. I've tried everything my friend has tried on me

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Writing in a journal.

Reading the bible...(yes I'm christian...but it really didn't help me at all)

talking to someone (If this were going to work it would have a long time ago)

and so much more stuff. I can't stand it at all. School is starting soon and I really just don't want to leave the house to go there. I just want to stay in bed and feel sorry for myself all day. It's selfish, and I know there are people who have it worse that I do but I just can't take it anymore. I want out. I don't want to commit suicide...but I've thought about it since I was 10-11. Then I stopped thinking about doing that.

Does anyone know what I can do to make myself feel better? :( I haven't got a clue what to do anymore...is anybody in the same situation as I am? Any suggestions would be great. Thanks. If you can help it please don't be mean about it. Thanks again.

Answer 1

I was depressed when I was your age my parents took me to therapy and it helped a lil. I had to go for about a good 3 years and it helped allot... I don't have any friends only one and before I was depressed I had allot. Go to therapy and and hang out with your friends or just cry so that everything you have bottled up inside could come out and trust me you will fell a whole lot better.

I never went to school either cause kids were mean to me to. So now I have to stay in school for an extra 2 years and I hate but I don't go to public school I now go to a Charter school. So just let all the things you have bottled up out and talk to someone you can trust  and you will fell better. I still get depressed sometimes. Your not alone.

Answer 2

Well i got some advice try talking to some one but some one you really trust and get along with well if that doesnt help go see the doctor belive me the therapy and medicine will work.

Answer 3

as for your dupression.

so you don't know why you are so dupressed all the time? you learned about all the stuff about hormones and puberty right? well, at our ages (im 14) at the age of puberty we change so much, and we have so much hormones that we suddenly feel dupressed/sad/mad and other mixed feelings like that. so you probubly feel dupressed because of all the hormones.

as for your friends.

just have an open mind on everything. call up your friends more.

go bowling, go to the mall, and other fun stuff like that! tell them that you need them in this time of your life and that you are having a hard time.

as for your family.

your parents dont hate you. they just might not want to take care of a child. you are so lucky that you even have grandparents that love you enough to take you into their home! just think. alot of kids are sent to orfanages or bounce house to house to people that they dont even know.

as for your life.

as soon as your eighteen you are going to move out of your grandparents house knowing so much that you know now. you will totally be sucessful even though you have had a tough childhood so far which will motivate you so much. when you are out on your own, you will be so compassionate to others that you wont want to stop giving.

trust me.

you are going to be the best person that you can.

do your best.

good luck.

Answer 4

I was like that too, even thinking about suicide. Here's a list of stuff I did:

-Carefully selecting good movies to watch (depends on which genre you appreciate): you will be surprised at how inspiring a movie can work

-Finding something to be passionate about: for me it was singing, tennis, drawing, reading (philosophy: don't be afraid of this subject it is not as hard/boring as it seems)

-Imagining what I wanted to be like and what I would love to do when I grew up and finding and researching inspirational role models, this really cheered me up (Natalie Portman is still one of my idols)

-About the tennis: sporting releases endorphines in your body. These will help you fight off the depression. So find a good sportclub to join. Running, swimming anything as long as you like it

Good luck hun

Answer 5

oh my gosh, no! don't think about doing anything bad to yourself.

life gets hard but it pays off in the end. i promise. things can work out if you take some action.

surround yourself with people you love, even if you don't have many. talk to the friend who knows you're depressed & talk to her regularly. it'll keep you grounded. talking to your guardians might be good too. i don't want to be those kinds of people who just offer you to talk to a counselor. it's your choice, i don't want to force you to do something you don't want to do.

socially, i'm not very social. i'm very shy, but i'll try my best to you help you on this subject. (x

there must be other people that don't judge you. occasionally strike up a conversation with someone, or just talk to people you're comfortable with. maybe your friends can introduce you to their other friends. who knows! but as long as you have friends, they'll be there for you when you need them.

again, please don't do anything to harm yourself. just keep living life each day to the fullest. appreciate what you have, and all the love you have. good luck!

Answer 6

13 is a very difficult age...talk to you guidance counselor and ask for help. If its any consolation we all go through a dark period when nothing makes sense but start organizing yourself and make plans...you'll find these simple things give you purpose and you'll begin to find pleasures and see outside of you own circumstances. My advice to you is just hang in there it does pass and talk to someone maybe a peer counselor at church or school. I wish you all the best...