Depressed and broken?

Question

ever since i can remember ive been depressed! my mom keeps letting me down making promises she cant keep or refuses to. she was acting like a brat today CZ she didn't like the way i shop at the mall and because I'm not into jeans that much. so she called me stupid, dumb,doesn't know how to shop, all this was said to the lady at register while my best friend watched her say those things. then she grabbed my money out of my hand and took it from me! on they way home she said "and you call your dad your ******* hero,some ******* hero, that piece of ****!" and "when i go to see MY mother and MY father your not welcome" so i said ill just ask my dad to bring me so she said " if he brings you when i go i'll through you of that house so help me god" I spent the whole ride home crying. then when we got home she kicked me out of the car. she always does this! and it doesn't help when you've had chronic depression all your life, and suffered from panic attacks and had suicidal tendencies. ive tried to ignore her and and it sometimes makes it much worse! i just went throw a terrible brake up and had a nervous breakdown and I'm only 18! what do i? with me, with my mom, and making me whole when I'm broken in a million little pieces? (MY MOM SUFFERS FROM SUICIDAL ATTEMPTS)

Answer 1

You remind me of the person in a room filled with venomous snakes and poison gas asking "what do I do?"  Get the F*** OUT!  Your home is a toxic environment.  Your mom is a loser who is trying to make you one, too.

You need help, she is going to ruin you.  And you seem to be ok with letting her do it!!!  Suicide is a pretty good description.

Get help, get out.

And quit making excuses for your feelings and choices.  Nobody really cares that you're "depressed"...So what?  Get over it.  You think depression is an excuse for failing to thrive?  Get over it.  Move on.  Get help.  Take responsibility for yourself.  Stop being a victim.

Answer 2

There are many things you can do to help treat your depression.

Moderate exercise for at least 20 - 30 minutes, daily, and up to an hour. Brisk walking is good, and try to be mindful of the feeling your foot makes as it hits the ground: it is a relaxation technique. Also use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you.

Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression. Around 30% - 40% of depressed people have low vitamin B12 levels. Depressed females using the contraceptive pill may benefit from vitamin B6 supplements.

Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain). As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55 at ezy-build ).

Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. Co-counselling is shown in the first 3 pages of section 2, or online therapy, or even talking with someone you feel comfortable with, and a much more detailed post is on page R.

Panic attacks are addressed in section 8, and contact one of the hotlines, in section 5, when feeling suicidal (provide your mother with a list of depression chatsites, and suicide hotlines: what helps her will ultimately benefit you). Teen resources are shown on the first page, and page K, in section 13.

Start making plans to move out when it is feasible to do so, after which, I would advise that you don't return to their place, at least not for long, and preferably limit contact to public places, such as a meal, at a restaurant, etc.

Answer 3

This is not good behavior. In fact, it is deplorable to cuss out a loved one and humiliate them. But there are lessons to be learned from all experiences. One lesson here is that it is a cold, cruel world. What other lesson there are to be learned from this experience I wonder. Ask yourself that question. One lesson it took me forever to learn is that life is not fair. But when life hands you lemons, make lemonade!