Depressed because I can't have a baby.

Question

Ultimately I'm feeling very ,very sad,I want a baby .I feel alone.My partner keeps only working and working.Almost all day a stayed alone.I tried to ignore this for some months I can stand any more.Some days I don't want to get out of the bed.I feel very sleepy.Sometimes I don't want to eat.I think If I can't have a baby I don't want to live anymore.I know that maybe God doesn't want I have it because I'm not so well.I'm diabetic,I'm depressed.I have also some lesions in my brain(but it doesn't cause me major problems)I have my health problems well controlled.I see that my other sisters they have sons and daughters .Why I can't?I went to infertility clinic already.I have more than 1 year going.I don't see any help from them.They only keeps telling me that my right fallopian tube is blocked and don't do nothings to solve ti.Honestly I don't know what to do any more.

Answer 1

The truth is, a baby doesn't heal problems.  Especially not depression.  A baby needs and deserves constant love and care, and that requires a person to be in a very specific state of mind to do so.

You should take steps to get over your depression.  Are you just lonely? You mentioned your partner works and works.  Are you just looking to have someone who relies on you to be around, a companion?  

Especially with your health problems and your partner not having a lot of free time, having a baby seems like a bad idea.  You should seek counseling about your depression.  Chances are, once you have helped yourself in that way, you will understand a lot about yourself.

At that point, you need to consider adoption.  Consider how many babies around the world are starving for love, and you are complaining about not being able to give birth?  Well think of all the wonderful little souls out there who are just looking for someone to turn to.  That kind of relationship is a whole lot more miraculous than giving birth, in my opinion.

Answer 2

First you should make some friends and get over your depression. A baby probably isn't the magic solution to all your problems.

Have you ever thought about adoption?

Answer 3

It sounds like that you desire a baby for someone to love you unconditionally. I must admit children are capable of doing that.  But, the downside of that after the baby you'll find something else to be depressed about. So, it's not the baby. You just have to have to make up in you mind and conceived in your mind that it's not that you can't stand not being able to conceived much longer, it's that you can't stand being depressed much longer. If you want more of something, give more of that thing. Voluteer or get employed at a daycare center, or do something for someone less fortunately than you are. Be grateful for what you do have. Fight for your life!!! You feel you have no purpose.

Do you know that your thinking produces your emotions your emotions produces your feelings your feelings produces your decisions and your decisions produces your actions and your actions produces your habits and your habits produces your character and your character takes you to your destination. Start thinking positive and find things everyday to be happy about. Whatever is true, noble, pure, lovely, admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think of such things. Phillippians 4:8. Here's a declaration that you can say everyday so that you can overwealm your depression.

I you will not quit, give up, fall out, or fail or be depressed!.

Passage Psalm 65:11

Thou crownest the year with thy goodness; and thy paths drop fatness.

In other words you are promised to be fruitful. You will produce. You will have a sound mind, no doubts, no double mind-ness. A year which is beautiful, bountiful, excellent, stable, pleasant, lovely, delightful, favorable, convenient, easy to use, easy to reach. If God declares it he will do it. If God can't do it, it can't be done. Come h**l or high water no matter what happens, God is going to bless this you!

Answer 4

Yea try being 18 and having to have a hysterectomy. I know your pain. You just have to move on and realize that this is the life you were given. You can still abopt. I know I plan to!

Answer 5

its okay just keep trying i have a feeling that u will et there someday.

Answer 6

regarding your sitituation i am sorry. depression is hard on a person. and i know this sounds like everyone else but from experience i know it to be true. you need to find something in your life to be thankful for. stop thinking about having a baby (just for awhile) and focus on you and the things that are happy in your life now. that will be the most help with your depression also vitiams b6 and b12 helps with that naturally. get yourself together and then start thinking about maybe adopting a child. there are alot of children out there that just need someone to love. maybe if you aren't able to have children god had a different plan on how you could save a life and be a mother.  

Answer 7

You're depressed. You have relationship issues. You have unresolved physical issues.You're lonely. You basically don't have a life. Get one. Get therapy. Nothing you've said suggests any kind of situation to bring a baby into. Sorry if that's hurtful, but it's true. If you hate your life, what does that offer a child? Especially if you want a child to fix your life. Way too much pressure to put on a kid.

Maybe start with a pet. If that works out really well,then see if you AND YOUR PARTNER really want to commit to the next step of adoption.

Answer 8

some people just cant have baby's...adopting seems like your only solution....

Answer 9

I'm sorry about your dilemma. I know alot of people are not appreciative of the fact they are blessed with a pregnancy and then it breaks my heart to see people who actually want a child and are not able to have one. Keep your head up, though. Like I said before, it might be in your best interest to have you partner checked out. It doesn't even have sometimes to do with one's age but medical conditions in the males are predominant over females. Just a suggestion, and I hope you get what you're wanting. Good luck and I'll be praying for you!