Depressed? i dont know? uffgg who wants to talk about it? ?

Question

Hey (already posted this question in a dif. catagorie but i didnt mean to post it in the catagorie sorry)

Okay so ive kinda ben accidentally ok well not accidentally but not purposly s******g up my life and people really dont know i am but i am

(smoking and drugs and s*x etc) i never thought those things would effect my personallity but i guess they are and people are like pulling me aside asking me if i am okay and do i need prayer or what ever. i feel alot happier actually ,.. maybe its thedrugs? i dont know but i dont feel depressed but so many people are asking me if i am?

ok then

heres my other question

ok so my friend she knows i am doing all this but she doesnt seem to rreally care its the weird thing. ill be like smoking right infront of her and she wont care and then she just goes on and is like i hate school im like hello.. im hurting inside.. im not doing well

ok well that sounded stupid

i dont know ..

i just dont get why people think im depressed

i sound really immature dont i ?

ok sorry

ok well

btw im 16

i need really helpful advise

you can even IM me..

kk

Answer 1

First off, don't worry about sounding immature these are your feelings as best as you can express them. As far as the drugs are concerned, you really should stop or ease out of them. At such a young age you can really mess up your body, now and into the future. And it sounds like you are doing them to get attention. Well, truth is it's not going to work, those around you most (friends) are either going to want to do the same or not want to be around you. Remember that they have the same thoughts and problems you have. And then there's the parents, teacher and elders... Some might care but do not want to push you by forbidding or restricting you, some may have enough on their plates to not add you to it, or they see, they know and they just don't care. All of these things are ok, we cannot control other people. So that leaves us with you...

Why are you 'acting out'? (The happiness by the way comes from the control as much as the effects of the drugs.) What has happened that leaves you feeling out of control or pushed down? These are things to get to the root of, not just the behavior that they are causing. Try talking to someone who is there to listen, a peer or school counselor.  Or you could go to Planned Parenthood or some place similar, they have staff on hand that could talk about your feelings in a safe, non-judgemental place. All free of charge

Answer 2

The fact that you posted this question is a indication that not all is well anymore, you don't want to ask for help and don't want to be cross ex-amend either. Try and cut down on the drugs - stop would be the best but it sure can't be easy. Will you friend not help you if you asked - 16 is a very difficult age especially now a days - but I think you might have to get in some adult help. If you cannot ask for it why don't you write as above a essay and give it to the person you might think will help you - cool teacher or someone

Answer 3

you sound like you are crying out for attention and someone to relise how bad you are hurting. i went through this and i smokes cannibis and drank to make me feel numb so i didnt have to cope with the hurt. but eventually it got so bad i overdosed on 72 paracetamol at 15 years old. i woke up and i cried not because of what i had done but because i actually survived and had to deal with more hurt. i eventually came to the conclusion that if i actually told someone just how bad i fel that they would help me. i spoke to my mum which wasnt easy and she told me that she had no idea i was feeling like that because i seemed so happy. but i was putting on a front. i eventually took up counselling and spoke about my issues and over time it goteasier. it wont happen overnight and it will take time but i urge you to talk to osmeone. as for your friend .. she isnt really a true friend if she was then she would have asked you if anything was bothering you. a true friend wouldnt let you get high and runk without questioning why you are doing it. personally i think you dont need this kind of person n your life right now. but please talk to someone. you may not feel depressed but eventually you will if you continue to abuse drugs. alchohol is a depressent which means if you feel bad when you are drinking your gonna feel worse when you are drunk. drugs only cover the pain but when they wear off you have to deal with it all over again. as a result of my drug taking i now have paranoid schizophrenia. abuse of drugs can cause so many mental illnesses and as a result of my stupidity i am going to live with this illness for the rest of my life. please i'm begging you to stop taking drugs stop drinking and speak to someone who you feel you can trust no matter who that person is you are 16 you have so much to look forward to. you have taken the first step by asking your question which is a really brave thing so you should be really proud of yourself. the next step is to sit down and talk just pour out all your feelings to somebody you trust. you need to talk to cure this. i promise you it will get better overtime but it wil be hard work. i am now a 20 year old mom of 2 boys aged 23 months and 8 months and have a partner who stook by me through it all. if you want to talk to me further drop me an email at [e-mail] i would like to help you in any way that i can. thank you for taking the time to read this and i hope it helps you a little. best wishes. xox

Answer 4

Hey little lady guess what? You are a kid. I do not mean that in a bad way yet a good one. you are going to make some bad choices that is a given. The thing is you need to look at what is going on now. some of the choices you make will effect the future. i don't have to tell you what is wrong and right. You know. The thing is find good friends. Maybe your friend doesn't want to upset you or make things worse. you know you can always let her in on what you are feeling then ask her. I know I sound like a parent . I am and I lived a life parallel to yours for a while. Trust me stay a float and pre calculate your choises. you will be fine. Good luck and know that you are cared about.  

Answer 5

please I'm asking you, stop with the drugs, and the smoking, by al means have s*x if YOUR ready for it.

i have friends like his they're 13, its pretty radical.

stop and think why am i doing this.

in the long run this stuffs gonna do stuff to your body.

there are always people that are there for you, look at the people who replied to this (unless its negative) they're trying to help you.

I know it seems c**p but maybe write some crappy poetry, might get famous if you make a band with allot eh poems you turn to lyrics.

come you can do most anything you want in life, but don't mess up your chances by s******g around now.

plus my idiot fiends whilst on drugs rushed me (on the skl field) and shoved cigarettes in my mouth cause she wanted me to be with them. you don't need to be like this.

also happy birthday.

Answer 6

Okay, okay, chill for a minute. Everything's going to be fine.

From one teenager to another...

Most people make choices like these because this way, they have something that only they can control. Just remember that you can control your own life without this...

Hey, you don't really sound immature, you sound like you're getting some things out that you really need to. It really didn't sound stupid. "I'm hurting inside" is honestly one of the most mature things I've heard people say.

And about your friend...she might be too wrapped up in her own life to consider that you need some reaching out to right now. h**l, everyone's too freaking wrapped up in their own lives to see sometimes. And I know what you're talking about when people say "are you okay" and "are you sad." Right now, I'm guessing you feel happy because you're getting away with things, and you're living on the edge etc and whatever. But...and I know this sounds really lame...you don't have to smoke and drink to have a good time and be happy. The s*x, I won't say anything about the s*x, just use protection :3 and don't exploit yourself.

Anyways, it's totally okay to say that no, you're not okay, to someone you trust who asks. Or just go up to them and be like "Hey. I'm f*cked up. Please help me." It's not like they're gonna say no or walk away. People care about you!

I suggest dropping the drugs all together. They're expensive and do really gross things to your body that often can't be undone. It will take willpower, and if you don't have enough (which is nothing to be ashamed of, its not easy), it really is okay to ask for help. People are out there for you, ones you know and ones you don't. I know there are websites and hotlines for this stuff... I'm pretty sure a different answer had one of them...

So...smile. Be happy, in a healthy way that you can clearly understand that won't hurt you. It's fun to be dangerous sometimes; it's part of being a teenager. But eventually, we get too old for it and it becomes pretty messed up. Feel free to contact me about being depressed and stuff, I'm happy to talk.

Feel better! Reach out! Good luck. You will be okay.