Depressed ?

Question

I am down and out because I didnt have kids. Didnt see it before, but now it is killing me. I am 35 my wife is 37. We have so much to be thankful for. No hardships at all. Great close knit family, decent jobs, etc. That is what has me so down though. I have what I feel would have been a near perfect world to bring a kid into but we didnt. Why didnt I see it this way before now. I feel now I am forever doomed without children. We both love kids, just didnt have any for no good reason other than we were absolutely enjoying ourselves. Someone please help. I feel now we are too old and all that good stuff. I always told myself I wanted to be young when I had kids and I have been married long enough(10 years) that I could have done that. This is why it bothers me so bad. I feel I wont be able to enjoy a kid as much or a kid will resent older parents. Can anyone shed some light. THanks

5 hours ago - 3 days left to answer.

Answer 1

if your main concern is the health of a baby born to older parents, why not consider adoption or fostering, imagine the impact you could have on the life of a child, if you rescue a child from being abused or unwanted, that would be the most special "mom" moment of all, best of luck!

Answer 2

Your age really isn't that "old". Way back when 35 was considered "advanced" but it's really not anymore. Not with all the people out there having children in thier 30's because they wanted to get settled first, wanted to get careers and houses before they got families, it's quite normal to see 30 year olds just starting to become parents.. Seriously. my husband was 30 when he had our first, He'll be almost 35 when we have this new one..

  I think you should talk to your wife.

Answer 3

Have you posted a question like this before? Or maybe it was just someone in your same situation.

It sounds as if you are really regretting your decision not to have children. Have you talked in depth about this with your wife? What does she say? You can try to have a baby or maybe you could foster/adopt. This isn't a closed chapter you just need to find the right page.

Answer 4

II have the same problem. but in reality look at it this way if god wanted you to have kids. it would have been great. sometimes it is not our given. just go on with live and thank god for what we have. there are lots of kids that need our help with advice. what ever kids you know help them out. thanks and may god help you see ahead.    JAA