Depression? Do i have it? Please read.

Question

Hey there, McLovin here.and recently i've been thinking that i may be depressed. I'm 16, and going to be a senior in high school, and i've never had a gf, or made any kind of romantic contact with any girl, even holding hands, hugging or kissing. And because of that i get ripped on constantly, which i ignore, and will not attend homecoming or prom this year. Also, i've decided to give up on love and women, because i've been rejected 14 times in a row, which is really sad in my opinion. Do women really not like the nice/caring guy like me? ugghh.. On top of that, i just found out that my aunt has AIDS and may die soon, and i really love her so much and am gonna miss her.

And now, my grades have dropped, and now i have a 2.8-3.0 gpa and might not get into the college i really wanted to go to(CSU Fullerton/San Diego State).

I'm also showing the following signs:

1.Eating less Sleeping less

2.Apathy( I don't really care about my grades anymore in school or if i do horrible things)

3. Stopped doing the things that use to bring me joy(skateboarding, idk why, i just quit)

4. I don't really like to be around my friends anymore, and would much rather be alone.

5. I've increased my pot-smoking from once every two months to once or twice a week.

6. I've been having mood swings(From being sad to being angry, during anytime of the day).

7. When i am sad, i feel like being alone and crying.

8. Sporadic thoughts of suicide(from time to time, i do think about just giving up and offing myself)

If i am depressed what can i do to resolve this matter? Should i tell my parents that i am depressed? Will life ever get better for me? Will i ever find a woman that would actually appreciate a lonely, nice guy like me to have and to be loved?

Answer 1

I would say that yes you are depressed. I'm 18 and never really had an official relationship. Do not avoid hanging out with friends! Laughing, smiling(as cheesy as this sounds I guess) will help you. If you think going to a doctor will help then go for it. But really pills are all the same. I took some for a short while but not long enough to see if they really had any kind of effect on me. I'm sorry for your problems and your soon to be loss but things like this happen and no we can't just brush them off like it's nothing but you have to learn that there IS an upside. Even when you're so far in to that abyss that seemed to welcome you with ease, yes someday things will be alright.

As for your pot smoking, personally I don't agree with doing it for the reason that... I believe it means you are getting weaker. You can't handle things. I've come close and really thought about ending it all but I can't. I won't.

Everyone wants to be loved and held. Especially as a teen that's there more so because of hormones. It's hard when you want to be alone and away but then you sit by yourself sad, and lonely.

I would try talking to your parents and see what they think. I'm sure they would know better than most people on what to do.

Good luck

Answer 2

While I am not a psychologist, I would say you are.  I would start by attending rehab to stop the pot smoking.  You should then be able to get therapy for the drug addiction as well as your depression.

Answer 3

You are definitely depressed, honey. Talk to someone like your parents and see if they can find a good therapist for you, You are way too young to give up on love. How can you give up when you haven't even experienced it yet. You will. It takes time. Self esteem and confidence will come. As for your aunt, I'm sorry for you and her. That sux! But one thing n life we know for sure, is we all die at some point. No sense in getting depressed about it, it won't change anything. Concentrate on making the most out of the time you guys have together and make her as happy as you can while she's still here, trust me, she's alot more depressed about it than you are. It's alright to cry. Suicide isn't the answer, ever. Life always gets better, you just hit a bump or two along the way. U will eventually find love, honey. But right now, you're not ready, u are too dependant on someone else to make u happy. If you can't make yourself happy how can u make them happy? Learn how to cope with your anger and fears. A therapist will help with that. If you believe in God, talk to your priest/minister/pastor. Ignore idiotic kids at school, I got teased everyday at school, and I lived. They feel just as bad about themselves as u do, they just pick on u to make themselves feel better. I was very depressed a few times in my life, and I'm 34 now and I still get that way if life stresses me out. But I don't do drugs, drink, or worry about suicide, I have 2 young children and I'm a single mom. I'm in debt past my eyeballs, and guess what? It's depressing!! But, I get up each day and live life knowing it'll eventually get better. I just paid off a credit card today after not paying on it for over a year. One step at a time,youngin', and stop smoking weed! That makes you feel worse, believe it or not. Keep talking about your feelings, keep a journal when you can't find a good listener. Get it out and it'll relieve some of your stress. By all means, cry a river if it relieves some of the pain. It's healthy to cry, not to bottle it all up inside.

Answer 4

unfortunately i think you are depressed. Ofcourse girls like nice caring guys just dont be too nice or clingy. ofcourse you will get  your girl just stop trying so hard to get one, she'll come when its time, your so young. who cares what people say go for your dreams. i think you should tell your parents. and dont think so much.  live life for yourself and dont give up ! try to stay healthy and get atleast 6 hours of sleep at night. go back to the things you like to do !! and be with your friends more too, maybe they can even help you.....and the suicidal thing many people go through it. but dont give up and ending life doesnt solve anything. YOU have to make yourself better. oh and stop smoking please your just ruining your life more and more. if you WANT to get better, you will. But please dont let it go too far, good luck with you and your aunt!

Answer 5

ok u are soooo depressed

talking to ur parents will help, that way u can talk to them and they can help you, maybe get you a psychologist. there is a women there for you, u just haven't met her yet, just wait and see

to help yourself u can

stop smoking

get your skateboard out and sk8 girls dig it lol.

n deff hang out with ur friends, that will take your mind off things,

Answer 6

Yea it definatly sounds like you are

It will get better, no matter how many times you hear it and don't believe it, it will.

Go see a therapist they can really help.  They'll let you know whether you need to go on meds or just work it out cognitively, by talking.

Once you do get better, alot of the qualities you think are "just they way you are" , well you'll hopefully be able to see yourself more clearly

and about finding someone...you're prob an awesome person but just don't feel like it right now

feel better soon!

Answer 7

Wow, I am a female 23 years old, and had my first boyfriend/kiss/holding hands..whatever you call it, when I was 18. I was always so jealous of everyone that had that great relationship, but my turn came too. It seems like once you begin dating, you don't stop dating. After my first boyfriend, I had no more problems dating anymore. I am sorry that there are a lot snotty girls out there, but you have to be patient until the right one comes along. Trust me though, smoking pott is not going to attract girls!!! Study and go to college and you will have women flocking to you. the most unattractive thing is for me to meet a guy that lacks ambition and intelligence.

Now, it does sound like you are a litte depressed. If you can, I would go talk to the school psychololgist about it. That is the metal health specialist at your school, it is completely free, and they are psychologist. They will be able to refer you to all sorts of things that can help you. Ask a faculty where you can find one of them, they usely work for the board of education so their office might be there.

(1) See a school psychologist

(2)Tell your parents, they love you and will support you.

(3)Life will get better, trust me. Depression can't last forever

(4)Yes, you will find a women one day. If you were my age, I would def date you (get off the pot though). I read how you were worried about your grades slipping and the fact that you are scared you want get into those college. girls find that so attractive.  Also, we love sensitive guys. You may be having problems now, but when girls are really looking for a great guy to settle down with, I bet you will get scooped up!

Good luck and God bless!!!

Answer 8

dfa anyone kno mine

Answer 9

You'll find love someday, my friend. I myself was going through quite the same thing a few months ago. Don't worry about rejection. It happens, and sometimes for good reason. Hold out for your soulmate, and make the most of your aunt's remaining time on this Earth. Don't think about killing yourself. It's overrated. Trust me.

Answer 10

Stop being such a sad sack get off your *** and do something. Moaning and groaning will only create more depression

Answer 11

I think you are letting the fact that your friends tease you to become your emotional drain, you focused on that and nothing else but if you are not interested in a girl well... then you are just not, you should focus on something you like to do like music, sports, poetry or whatever takes your mind off of things, be your own person and the interest on things will come back, be really careful not to diagnose yourself, keep in mind that you are a teenager and that your sense of independence is kicking in, so in part is normal that sometimes you don't feel like being around people much, everyone goes through that at some point or another

Answer 12

You really have a depression, and all because of the weed and you're self esteem you should enjoy life today; yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come.  

Answer 13

You are young to be worrying about girlfriends,the right one will come along when you least expect it and if your aunt is going to die this is going to greatly affect you.With this worry your grades are bound to go down a bit.But trust me the weed could be causing a lot of your side affects,not every body can smoke it and be happy,it can cause a lot of psychological problems So stop smoking it.Then go and see your doctor for a proper diagnosis.Also yes tell your parents,they know you better than anyone else.Life will get better once you give up the pot and get medical help.

Answer 14

hi there ,mclovin, don`t feel too bad ,you`re only young yet . though things may seem bad ,you have the rest of your life ahead.

i didn`t find a decent girl until i was 27  was engaged for 4 years and then got married. we now have three children , the youngest is 8 .

this all took time and i am now wondering where the time went .

don`t rush your life away, things will happen when you least expect them. believe in yourself and sod the rest , it`s your life , live it as you please.

good luck my friend

regards  tony,d

Answer 15

yes you are...sorry you are going through all this..see a counselor..& you may need psychiatric meds for awhile..hang in there :)

Answer 16

might be a major depression...though not sure

major depression is caused by losing a loved one or sudden transfer(like new school or even new home adds) but don't worry this type, though quite deep takes a shorter time to totally lapse out ,not like minor depression...that it may take two months to even three years and the reason is very different that sometimes, people with minor depression don't even know that they are depressed though the way they go on from day to day is greatly affected.......

better consult a psychologist...don't take everything in, there'd always be someone who could listen to you, your never alone...smile

happiness depends on ourselves   -aritotle

noble deeds and hot baths are the best cures for depression  

                                                   - dodie smith

..NO MATTER HOW DARK THINGS SEEM TO  BE ACTUALLY ARE, RAISE YOUR SIGHTS AND SEE POSSIBILITIES---ALWAYS SEE THEM FOR THEY'RE ALWAYS THERE.  -NORMAN VINCENT PEALE

Answer 17

i dont know if you have depression but i know that you are very sad obv..

and you should def not smoke cause you will die, which is not good.

trust me life will get better and if you trust me your insane cause you dont know me... but tell you parents and you should get a therapist or something.. cause you are going through a tough time... and your not physco anf thats not why im telling you to get a therapist. you will find a woman to apreicatte you everyone has a solemate you just need to keep looking for her...

dont worry i know you will be okayy