Depression and relationships?

Question

I am currently in a long distance relationship with a wonderful man who is dealing with some major issues of depression. He has decided to start therapy and asked me. what I thought. I told him he needed to do whatever was necessary to make himself better. He then warned me that he may start to not call me as much and might rather text me instead. I want to be as supportive to him as possible, yet with their being distance between us I feel like I am being shut out a bit. I don't want to be selfish, yet I miss him dearly. It's hard enough not seeing him as much as I would like, now it would seem that I won't get to actually hear his voice everyday like I would prefer. What do I do? I want our relationship to continue to blossom because he is awesome and I don't feel like his depression should keep that from happening, but how do I give him the space he needs and still feel connected to him. I don't want to push too much, but I want to be supportive of him and his feelings. He has shared that he loves me and wants a definite "4-ever" furture with me, he just feels he needs to take care of some issues he has before we enter into that. I adore him for loving "us" enough to do this, I just feel all out of whack and don't want to loose him because this change is causing some unsteadiness in me. Please help, I feel like I am going crazy myself.....

Answer 1

I understand how you must be feeling. There is no guarantee that your relationship will survive. The best outcome of all is that your lover heals.

Get on with creating your own life as you would without him. You need not abandon him but let him stay in your heart along with the others you keep there.

Answer 2

Will like one of my ex told me "If we were meant to be then in the future we will be together but, for now it is just not working cause my mother don't consent us being together".  I know it is hard being in a long distance relationship and if he needs the space then give it to him you just have to sacrifice in the long run when he is ready then it will be great but, if u find someone else then it is his lost not yours.  Though if he is fateful to you then it will work out just fine.  I do not know a lot for myself but, if this helps then good but, you don't have to take my word.  I am just giving you an advice.  Love is good and if you two have that bond with each other then I don't see why but, then just to give him that space and if he needs your support then be there for him as a partner and talk things out with each other.  In a relationship if you don't talk to each other then how is the relationship going to grow with you and him....  That is all I can say to you but, like I said be there if he needs it and I am only giving you an advice you don't have to take my word for it........  I have myself been though some weird relationships so it is just from my past experiences.........

Answer 3

I understand that you must be frustrated because it feels like he is shutting you out, but I really think he is getting help because he wants the two of you to last.  A lot of people are depressed don't feel like they have anything to live for and you are giving him a reason to finally put his depression behind him and move forward.  -Good for you!  He needs you more than ever right now.  If you truely care about him, hang in there with him and the two of you will be better off in the long run.  

You can't draw from an empty well, so give him some time to fill his well and then he can give himself completely to you!