Desperate HELP PLS!!! what do i do??? move on?

Question

firstly im SO sorry this is long but any effort taken to read will be MUCH appreciated...

ok so theres this guy i like,at my part sat nite we didnt hook up,bt we kissed n stuff bt we were both a li'l tipsy.n apparently this guy has liked me since the beginin of the year,n we spent the whole nite huggin nn talkin it was so nice=).but thennn we didnt talk at school (he's shy at school so we dont talk much,bt we have classes together) and on thursday he said he's sorry and that he doesnt like me anymore! which is strange, how can u not like some1 after a whole year of liking them

neways, his best friend likes me too...n i was thinkin it has something to do with him.

BUT, this guy i like,he hasnt had very many relationships and i guess he's not that expirienced....what do i do?

plus, hes started talkin c**p about me , i guess to prove he doesnt like me to others, but his best friend told me that he still likes me!! and i said that he's changed, i like the guy i was with on saturday but not the guy he acts like at school.

and his best friend said that this guy i like doesnt feel as though i 'fit' in with his friends, and ALSO apaprently he's more confident now about himself (after sat) which is wierd...cos i gave him the 'confidence' by tellin him he's cute and stuff.

and last nite he got drunk, and his best friend told me that he said i was just an 'expiriemnt' to see if he can get me or not...which is wierd cos on saturday nite when we were drunk i swear i've never seen such a SWEET guy before...and i kno he's sweet, hes jsut acting.

so i dont get it.

what do i do?

i want him back.

but he keeps saying he doent like me. but his best friends telling me he does.

HELPPPPPPPPP pls!!

i spoke to him, he told me he doesnt like me anymore but he 'used' to, and i asked him why, n he's said that to his best 'judgement' we should just be friends =( and i dont know what to do about it...

his best friend did tell me tho that i shouldnt have hope...BUT he told me that this guy liked me...so wht do i do? forget about him? move on?

Answer 1

The guy you like is a piece of s*hit. Forget him.  His best friend?  Kick his a*s*s.

Answer 2

Stay away from alcohol.  

Answer 3

This is good testament that a woman thinks things way to much. I'm sure I'll get alot of negative comments but hey am I wrong. You said yourself you've spoken to the guy afew times and obviously if he says he wants to be friends then luv it means that. If your still intent on chasing this guy then openly say to him that he has one last chance and if nothing comes of it then moving on is the best thing to do. Nothing worse than losing precious time on chasing someone who doesn't want to be chased!

Answer 4

Sweetie...dont feel so bad about it. You're disappointed now that he is not liking you back. You dont need to ask him back...he is not yours in the first place.

Think of it this way...would you want a guy who would 'play' you as a boyfriend? The ocean is vast! There are a lot of fish you can pick in it. Dont sulk on a one drunken moment with him. What his friends saying are just 'hearsay'. Enjoy your youth, your life...the right man will find you in God's right time.

Hope this helps.  

Answer 5

I'd say, keep him boozed all the time.

Seriously, as guy I'm also a shy type and not keen into much relationship either. Start at square one. Get his attention. Probably your man and I are the same. If we do, I might be able to help you by talking about what I like in a woman. These are the folllowing;

  1. I fancy women who listens when I talk. (Leaving some air for me to

        talk is an advantage).

  2. Witty women makes me very comfortable to devulge myself better.

  3. Women that plays mysterious enhances my interest.

  4. Women that plays like she is a learner doesn't hurt my ego and

        gives me a challenging role as a teacher.

  5. I like women who doesn't give in after a first meeting 'coz I'm  

       pretty sure she could never be owned easily by other men.

  6. Women that took my good advise seriously is a woman willing to

      change and shows that she is not a 'HOPELESS CASE'.

I'm not doing a 'how-to' article here. I was just telling you based on my personal experience. This is not a guarantee but this could be a good start.

  

Answer 6

You're starting to get obsessed over him. Don't show him that you are.

Get a grip. Start at square one, and let things fall into place.

If he likes you but doesn't want to start a relationship with you, then that means he has certain priorities he doesn't want to break. If you can't adapt to those priorities, then I guess you'll just have to move on.

Answer 7

To summarize  your story:  you been kissin and huggin and talking with this guy one Saturday night and both of you were tipsy. You found him  very sweet but  the next day, he said he doesn't love you anymore.

My solicited advise:  As you name ID name says, "realist", be realistic. The guy was only sweet because he was under the influence of  alcohol. I bet he would be as sweet no matter who  was the girl he was with,  that night.  

A sober guy is more credible than a  drunk/tipsy guy. You should accept the reality that all he had for you was just for  little  night of fun, nothing more.

This may be a little hard to take,  but  I know you are still a teenager- forget  that guy and move on.  It's better to love someone whom  would love you in return.

Answer 8

If you lie down with dogs you get fleas.

You have a sore lack of moral fiber and need more God in your life.

Then you wouldn't offer yourself as a piece of meat to be toyed with.

Get some integrity girl.  Why would you bring your dirty laundry out for all to see and beg them to look?

Bah!

Answer 9

that guy is a bigtime user.... you gave him compliments & apperntly he is taking advantage of it & loves the spotlight all the time. like they say do not use revenge......just get even with him by ignoring him.