Desperately in need of a baby?

Question

Hi friends, actually i need a special advice, i had a love marriage, at the time of our marriage, half of our parents agreed, so we had a registered marriage, hubby is Hindu i am Sikh, we had little earnings then, so we both did jobs, could not take help from parents, after 1 year i got sick of Arthritis, so much that i even could not walk, so my treatment started, now with job & my sickness, we did not grow our family, now, 10 years passed, we both are financially sound, we have all the things in life, we love eath other, also i am working from home, i am stable in health, but my treatment is life long, i am like totally healthy, fit and fine, just having medicines. now we have all in life except a baby, doctor says it is late now, we are close to 39 years of age. We applied for child adoption but the agencies are not responding properly, we keep them calling, emailing, they say they do not have a baby yet. The only thing i know is the baby we adopt will have all the lov and happiness from us. Now i feel so lonely without a baby, what should i do now, please suggest...

Answer 1

Listen to the doctor.39 and health issue please adopt the baby.if you have your own baby may be by chance,still you have to worry about baby.by research and survey your baby had 95% chance of any kind of major health issue,plus baby may not smart and normal suppose to be.go India with doctor report.my brother friend did it.same issue like you.you can adopt healthy and boy/girl what you want.[need good lawyer too]don't take risk to have it own.if baby born with defact you be sorry for life instead of enjouing you worry whole life.adopt baby,good karma too.

Answer 2

Do u have all the doc,? I maean certification from doctor stating that u will never concieve? If not, make it ready bcos all these play imp: role in the adoption process. Then i think as per the new rules u will have to sign some doc to assure that ---% of ur wealth/properties will be given to ur adopted child. Enquire abt all these and then contact convents and orphanages for this.

Answer 3

Go and see a lady doctor and ask whether you can still have e child while you are still on your meds. 39 is generally not too late....

Answer 4

Dont give up yet, I mean the medical treatment. You are only 39 may be the doctor would have meant its too late to conceive naturally.There are loads of fertility treatment available.You can try some. Dont worry you will have a baby of your own. Good luck.

Answer 5

Adoption is a process, so be patient.  There are so many babies out there who need good homes.  Best wishes to you.

Answer 6

go see another doctor 39  is not too old to have a child many woman do it.

why not try china or one of the asian countries to adopt a child.  hope this helps

Answer 7

I also think 39 is not old or too late to have children unless there is a medical condition that is preventing you from becoming pregnant. Actually more and more people are waiting til their 30's and 40's to have children. I think adoption is a wonderful thing. Have you ever considered adopting a child instead of a baby. I hear there are a lot of older children that need homes and will give you just as much joy if not more than a baby. You wouldn't have to worry about changing diapers and other baby tasks. I think snce there are children or older children out there that need to be adopted the process may be a litttle faster. Just keep doing what your heart tells you and don't let anyone get you down. Good luck eventually you will have that child you have hoped for and you will think it was worth the wait.

Answer 8

Now a days, people give birth to babies at the age of 80! So you are just 39, n can try for a baby. I dun think the 80 yr olds took permission for concieving, then y are you taking. Yes its risky at this age but science is getting better n better everyday!!! Try for a test tube baby, or getting pregnant.Try for adoption only if no other options help you.

Answer 9

Both of you Take a long holiday.. Relax yourself. Forget everything else. Remember those days of your honeymoon and live two months out of your routine.

Try this out.

I bet you will conceive.

Best Wishes.

Answer 10

if this is the fact then i will sujest you to search someone in your far relatives, like someone who is poor, or go to some poor areas where people have many children but cant take care of them, take all legal documents for the adoption and take home a baby.

good luck!!

hope you'll find a baby soon.

i have my own family or else i would like to be adopted by you :))