I just broke up with my boyfriend of Nine Months. I'm 33, he's 48, both divorced.
Anyway, we were at dinner speaking about his friend's relationship when he say: What does she expect, she's dating a divorced man in his 40's and thinks he would want a relationship.
I was floored. So I asked is that how he feel about us, and he says: I want to travel someday and do my little walk-about. Can't make any commitments.
I, ofcourse, got upset. I never lied about the fact that I am looking for a commitment and didn't want to be in a relationship with a man who had no interest in this kind of relationship.
He told me that he cares for me, but he was so hurt with his marriage (ended 4 years ago when she got pregnant by someone else) that he doesn't want to take another chance on someone. That I was pressuring him. He needed time to determine if he was ready to start down the road of finding love.
I feel like if I stay, I'm just setting myself up to be dumped because he needs to hold on to his pain. I really wanted to see if we could go somewhere, but I feel he's not interested in ever going anywhere with anyone.
But on the other hand I know he's a wonderful person.
I also yelled at him because we don't spend anytime together. Maybe lunch once a week and some odd weekends. He says he's just so use to being alone. But should an aquaintence ask him out he's there in a heart beat???
Long story shortened...did I do the right thing leaving? Would I be stupid to give him a chance to decide if he wants to pursue this??
Should I be happy with the hour a week?
PS. My husband left me and started a new family so I know his pain, but I am willing to move forward with my life.
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