Did I do the right thing by taking my child out school?

Question

My son has been going to kre-k for 3 weeks now. He has been hitting, kicking, pulling hair, and spitting on other children. His school is not allowed to do any kind of discipline. He has been getting disciplined at home for his offenses. He does not pay attention to the lesions in class. If he is bad I get called to come pick him up early. It has been almost every day. When I do have to go pick him up he is only there for 2 to 3 hrs. tops. He is not really learning anything. Also his school told me if he continues to act up in class he will be dis-enrolled. Well today I had to go pick him up early yet again for being bad. I told his school that I was not going to bring him back. Because I was concerned for the safety of the other children and he was not making any progress. We are taking him to a physiologist. To get evaluated for ADD and ADHD. And other such stuff. I was just wondering if I did the right thing. Also what is your opinion?

Answer 1

Yes it is only pre_k so i'm assuming hes about 4? You did the right thing. Definitely get him checked tho. there might be an underlying reason as to why he's acting like that. or maybe hes having some seperation problems or just being in a new place. another option would be maybe going with him one day and stay there for those few hours and see what maybe the problem could be first hand. i would try that before taking him out

Answer 2

yes you did the right thing and you are doing the right thing my son was great when he started now my daughter is going to start in a week and she has to help and she just cries when she cant help but i am thinking of taking her to the dr. If he does have add or adhd getting him on med the sooner the better it really helps my husband has add and it runs in family! But you did the right thing.

Answer 3

My son went through the same thing when he was young. I'm a single mom so I had to have him in daycare so I could work. De-socializing will not make him better, and could only make him worse. You may need to find another child care who has a better teacher who may be a little more strict with him.

Unfortunately I can not offer any type of real great advice, other then continue to work with him about why hitting is wrong. And what he is supposed to do if he is backed in to a situation.

Alot of times when children that young express their feeling violently it is because they are frustrated and do not know the words or actions they need to take. All you can do is teach him, and try to stay patient.

As far as the ADD thing, I think many doctors are too quick to diagnose a child with ADD when all they need is a little more guidance then most. Besides they can not diagnose him until he is 6 anyway.

Hope that helps.

Answer 4

spank him and then take him back into the class. he has learned that if he acts up he gets to go home. so send him back and when he acts up take him to the bathroom spank his butt and take him back to class. after a few times he should get the lesson.

Answer 5

You did the right thing.  But consider his viewpoint.  He is very young.  His parents have taken him to be with strangers.  He can't be sure they will come back.  But he found out very quickly that if he acts up, they will return and take him home.  So, in my opinion, he is insecure with the separation.  Abandonment issues are very common in very young children.

Answer 6

I think you did the right thing until you know for sure if he has a problem and can be treated for it. I do think once you know and he can be treated he should go back to school.

Answer 7

Sounds like you're doing the right thing.  Keep working with him at home, though, so he doesn't fall behind.  He should know his numbers, letters, letter sounds, and colors.  

Answer 8

you need to talk to the school counselor and the  teachers and the principal

your mistaken on the school discipline thing

if they didnt punish students they would have anarchy.

you need to also sit down with your son and talk to him find out why hes acting out  and punish accordingly

Answer 9

Maybe he is doing this because he knows that he is going to get to go home. Try putting him back and and warn him before you leave him that if he is mean you are going to come to school, spank him, and then leave him there. Do that for a few days and he will get over it. I had to do that with my son some.  

Answer 10

good for takin your son out. not so good with the ADD thing. Docs are are using the diagnosis a little to readily. Maybe you should try a different school? he may have had a hard time adjusting and was acting out b/c of it. maybe he needs a school with smaller classes so he gets more individualized attention. maybe he needs more of a structured environment? maybe he was over stimulated??? good luck. please do not put your child on any meds just yet. and dont let the doc talk you into it yet either. give it time!

Answer 11

I think you did the right thing. God Bless

Answer 12

Blow up your T.V, throw away your papers, move to the country, build you a home.  Plant a little garden, eat alot of peaches, try and find Jesus, on your own.

Answer 13

You don't say how old your child is if he is under 3 years old its pretty normal for them to be disruptive. He is probably immature for his age which boy's tend to be no matter how they are raised.  

Yes, it was right to take him out but.. my daughter had 2  like that and she didn't take him out. She sometimes even sat through the classes. (pre school shouldn't be more than 3 hours anyways the kids get tired).  Both were disruptive in K-2 to the point is the teachers had her number on speed dial on their cell phone.  

The oldest one, now 10, is doing great in school and the other one, almost 9, had his difficulties but he has settled down this year.  She never put them on any drugs and though they had some signs of ADD she opted out of that meds thing but has worked with them on a consistent basis and her hard work paid off. Teachers and doctors are too quick to put a child on meds and its very hard to get the kids off of them once they are on them.(I suggest no TV or video games, more running around and just playing at this age until he can focus on his real world).

Answer 14

you did the right thing for yourself, your child, and the other children. i wish that more parents would think about these types of issues when their children are being disruptive in class. this way if your child is a.d.d. you can start getting it treated early which will be an added benefit for your son. i'm so tired of parents that view school as simply free daycare, rather than holding up their end of the bargain by making sure that the child is learning and not being a distraction. kudos to you.