Did I do the right thing in this situation? Please Help.?

Question

Alright, I am 17 years old, and Ive been in this relationship with this girl for quite awhile. About 2 years if you add it all up. For the last couple weeks she has been talking about the future; you know, marriage kids living together after graduation all that jazz. I care about her and all but I dont think im ready for it. I told her that we need a break so I can think with a clear head on my own two feet. She was completely broken hearted and now i feel like an a*****e. Did i do the right thing by telling her I need some time?

Answer 1

Well maybe you should have talked to her about this instead of saying "We need to take a break". I think you should tell her how you feel.  

Answer 2

You DID do the right thing, don't question it. Whether you are 17, or 55; if you are not sure about something, take a step back and look at the situation as a whole. Once you have had time to think about this, you will figure out what to do, and nothing could be a wrong decision, it is just a decision. If you two are meant to be...it will happen. You could have done the wrong thing though; stay with her when you are unsure, and not only compromise your happiness, but hers as well. Good luck in whatever you choose!

Answer 3

OMG same situation

some girls just want to feel secure and loved, just talk to her and tell her you love her but thinking about the future is confusing, tell her you both are young and dont need to think about marriage just yet, make it clear that you don't want to break up, just think about the future, like she wants you too

Answer 4

Hi!

Well just bcos she was talking about marriage it doesn't mean she wants to marry you now!

Of course she might have begun dreaming about it if she fell in love with you, BuT (there still is a but), But it doesn't mean she wants to marry you now. So don't worry, she's not proposing to you, she's just talking about it and stuff with you, so she would see what u think about this subject.

Please don't dump her just cos of this, she must really like you, it would definitely break her heart. I'm talkin like this cos I happen to like a guy too, and uummm there where times that I imagined us actually married. But we never went out  together as a couple, and i think that it's a 99.999999% one sided love. :(:(:(:(:(:(

Anyways gd luck!!!

[Wow, are u some ideal man? your already being dreamed about being some girl's price xDDD Haha!!  kwl;)]

Answer 5

I think you did the right thing. You're only 17 and you really shouldn't be thinking about marriage and kids just yet. Don't feel like that! Just wait a little while until you feel you're ready and go for it =] Explain to her that you're only teens and you just feel that it's too early. I hope this helps =]  

Answer 6

you were a bit harsh she obviously loves you very much . You should have told her that you arent ready and how you feel that is the only way that she will know!! hope this helps.

Answer 7

No one can really say weather or not you did the right thing, but I think it was important for you to be honest with her. It is never a bad idea to think about your future, it didn't mean that you have to get married tomorrow, but she probably just wanted some validation that you were both on the same page, and hoped to be with you forever.

Whatever happens - I hope you can talk it out, and both be happy.