Did I get played? I am freaking out!?

Question

I have been corresponding for nine months with a "friend" that I new several years ago. He deployed to Iraq in the spring and I have been supporting him with cards, letters, emails and packages.

He is very loving towards me, a few months ago I even received 3 bouquets of flowers. He has called me on the phone 4 or 5 times and I thought there was love building between us. He signs his emails and letters with "love" or "love ya", says he loves me just the way I am an never to change.

He named his uparmored vehicle in my honor and had a flag flown in my honor on the 4th of July. Stupid me I thought this was all a very big deal.

Well he has a public profile online that I saw today where a woman left him a very loving message, obviously someone very close to him.

I got in touch with her- isn't the internet great? - and chatted for a while and told her that I had been building what I thought was a very special relationship with her man. Apparentally they are making plans to get married. He talks to her everyday via webcam and calls her almost everyday, writes, blah blah blah. Confesses his true and undying love for her and everything that goes with that.

I found out that he also flew a flag in her honor as well on the 4th of July and that his gun is named after her. All the guys in his company just love her because she has made their boss so happy.

How did I not see this coming? He told me that without my support he wouldn't really have any, he hasn't had anyone make him feel special in a really long time. We even exchanged erotic email stories for about a month and not 3 weeks ago he said he was having a dream about me. What the h**l just happened to me? Did I get played or both of us, or did I misread this whole thing?

I am crushed, please be kind.

Answer 1

How could you ever know?  Unfortunately, there are people out there who do this to unsuspecting people.  You totally got played but it is NOT your fault!  I hope both of you leave him.  I think it is great that you contacted her because she obviously wouldn't know either.  He doesn't deserve either of you.  Leave him in the dust, literally.

Answer 2

First of all, I wish I could give you a hug and then shoot the jerk in the knee caps!

Did the other girl know about all the stuff you two had together? Cause if he told her the same things he told you, he's playing you both...

I'm sorry there are such jerks out there... I know it'll be hard, but I would confront him asap. And if he denies it, sever all ties and be done with the jerk. If he apologies, well, that's up to you... But I wouldn't accept it personally... He knowingly played you, knowing how you felt... I think that is unforgivable.

I hope you feel better, cause life will get better! I hope I helped some too.

Answer 3

u didnt see it coming because he blinded you with gifts ect he made you feel like the only special one and that made you unable to see what he was really doing

i am sorry

Answer 4

Wow just move on and don't look back, he's just an a*****e don't take it personally.  

Answer 5

i don't think you were misread, you were played. even though you are hurting but its best you cut off contact with him,move on and find some who will be honest and cherish you. as time will go by,it will get easier. you deserve to be put 1st,and have the best. remember that you deserve nothing but the best!!!  

Answer 6

Im sorry to say , but yes he is playing with you, i have been through the same thing and all you can do is pick up your heart and move on..i know it will hurt alott but u have to pick yourself up..he is not worth it and u deserve so much more...dont go back or he will lie and walk all over you..good luck :)