Did I handle this whole situation wrong?

Question

Okay, so I've been dating this really nice guy for a little over a year now, and he is so amazing. He's like my boyfriend and my bestfriend and the same time.

But anyway, yesturday, I went back home (I moved to another state to attend college), and I decided to bring him with me. So everything was fine, intil we went to go see my sister. I never really liked her, but I jus decided to go see her anyway. The WHOLE time we were there she was making rude comments about my boyfriend and I because I'm black and he's white, and trying to be sacastic about the big age difference between us.

I really didn't appreciate it, so I started to get a attitude and we ended up getting into a huge arguement and I slapped her. I went back to my Mom and Dad's house, and told them what happened, and they get mad at me! Yes, me of all people, she's 5 years older than me and is acting like a irratating little girl! I could had made fun of all of the failed relationships that she's had, but I didn't, so I think that I did pretty good by not hurting her feelings.

But since I have no idea of where my parents are coming from, I want to aks ya'll :do you think that I handled the situation wrong? I think I handled it good, but I want to hear what other people think too.

Answer 1

Slapping her is where you went wrong. It would've been better just to tell her that you didn't appreciate her comments and just leave.

Answer 2

The only thing you can control is yourself and your responses.

Your sister is bitter and can't control herself. She will criticize anything you do no matter what... any progress you make will always irritate her. Your parents know she is a r****d. Don't ever bring anyone to meet her ever again... at best, send her an announcement after your wedding!

I don't know if your parents have their own form of prejudice going on. Chances are they are still looking to criticize you as well. Don't feed them. Just work on being nice to them and getting yourself through school. Don't tell them anything about whom you are dating or anything more specific than the weather and that you are doing well in your classes.  

Answer 3

It probably would have been better if you told her you would not tolerate her treating your bf that way and just walked out. It had to be very uncomfortable for him to start with then much worse watching/listening to you two argue.  

Answer 4

Wen i was a teenage my sister used to now all the right buttons to press to make me loose my temper and my parents knew this, so one day we had a massive fight and i slapped her(she deserved it!) Anyway i got in heaps of trouble, and later wen it all calmed down and i spoke to my parents they said thats no matter wat she said or did that physichal violence was not the answer and i sould have been a better person. I felt awfull, but she was never as abusive towards me, we just keep to small talk know, its a shame we are not friend but at least we dont kill each other, hope it helps, good luck1

Answer 5

No you didn't handle it right if you let the situation lead to a physical altercation.  All you had to do was just say, "Ok, we're leaving."  By doing what you did, your relationship is ruined, at the very least for a long time.