Did I have a right to be irritated??

Question

Ok, so my partner and I don't see each other very often, as we live a few hours apart. Well we saw each other before the weekend, and had s*x on Thursday. Well then we went away for the weekend with family, and did not have s*x as it wasn't an option too. Well on our drive back on Monday, he asked if I wanted to that night, and of course I did, well we get to bed and he is too tired, but said we would the next day. That was fine with me as I was a little tired too. Well last night we go to bed and he is too tired. And well I got irritated and upset, and he commented about it. Which kind of just made me more upset. And well we finally did early this morning, but he is leaving today, and I don't know how long it will be until we see each other again. Did I have a right to get upset/ irritated, or did I overreact??

Answer 1

sometimes there are other reasons for a person not wanting to have s*x and maybe you should look into it or talk to him about it. Ex. my other half is always bugging me to have s*x with him and I dont want to because I am downright miserable and I feel like that is the only attention I get from him. He gets pissy and upset when I wont have s*x with him, but wont/doesnt understand my reasons as to why.

Relationships are two way streets and both of you need to compromise.  

Answer 2

well, I understand how you feel. I had a lot of ups and downs in my current relationship sexually. In the beginning we had s*x nearly all the days of the week, then it started dying off after a while when he started back to college because he would say he was always tired or stressed. I used to get mad at him and be like "why dont you want me?" and "how can you be too stressed for s*x?" and I never understood, but we always got over our little tiffs about it.

It wasn't until my mother passed away a few months ago and I had all this stress and everything in my life that for the first time I understood what it feels like to be too tired for s*x. For atleast a month it became me that was turning him down left and right because i was too worn out and just wanted to cuddle and go to sleep.

anyway we made it past it all..and my point here is that sometimes these things just happen. there will be more time to have more s*x in the future, and i'm sure there may be plenty of times in the future that you again do NOT have it for whatever reason..but make sure to keep a close physical bond even if you're not having s*x. be sure to cuddle and be affectionate and don't pressure him or make him feel like you're demanding the s*x from him, just tell him it frustrates you and you're sorry if he thinks you are overreacting.