Did I marry the wrong guy or are we in a rut?

Question

My husband and I have been living together for 6 months now, married for 3 months. I feel like I do not love him. I care for him deeply, but its boring. s*x life is great, he is great with the kids, great around the house. We have nothing to talk about tho. We try to talk while we are at work on the phone, and its just how are you? I love you. At night, we really do not have meaningful conversations. I feel like we are boring, like we do not have anything to talk about. I feel like I married the wrong man. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Dear Hosebag:

Perhaps you should've thought about that BEFORE you made kids (if they're his?), BEFORE moving in together, and definitely BEFORE marriage!!

WTF?  RU Dumb or what?  F-O-C-U-S

Answer 2

Well, sounded like you married  a wrong man and her married a wrong woman.

Married is more than just nice looking and good s*x, baby sit your children or a total handy man.

What don't you starting with what would you like to do?

Find out what would he want to do?

And i mean beside great s*x in bed.

Find some activity that you two will enjoy doing together.

Married is not just like tale story sweet heart. It is work and all way need work to improve.

Answer 3

you marry the right man coz he is great with kids ,think about your kids's future.You have to go for holidays having fun ,talking about little things.Stop phone communication and after work you talk about your day at work

Answer 4

It sounds to me like you are just in a rut and people go through that. Life is not always a bed of roses and we have got to remember that.

Your used to each other so now you have to get used to being used to each other. I know it sounds complicated but think about it.

Answer 5

Well that was fast. Or did you figure being married would make everything so much more interesting? It sounds silly, but maybe you're like the couple in the theme restaurant in The Secret of Life (Monty Python - if you haven't seen it, rent it.) The waiter asks if they'd like a nice conversation before dinner and offers them a menu so they can pick a topic. He then gives then cue cards with interesting facts about the subject. It might just be that he too is thinking you don't have anything to talk about. Pick something from the paper or the news and thrash it out. Do you not have a single solitary thought about anything all day? Do you not have anything you wonder about that you could talk about in the evening? Or just bring up this Answers group and talk about the messed up people.

(Or just sit around and spit on each other for amusement.)  

Answer 6

So how long have you known him? What was things like when he first moved in?  It can be hard at first it's all new and there are different set of rules to being married. My suggestion is try having dates that are off the wall, bring some excitement to what you guys do together outside of the bedroom. It takes practice but time will show both of you, what your future holds. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Go out and meet some new men mess around a little to see if you made a mistake.

Answer 8

I'm kinda going thru the same thing. I just moved in with my boyfriend who I was madly in love with, I told everyone he was my soul mate. Now I am tired of even being around him, I look for excuses to leave for awhile. We have nothing to talk about either. Like you said, its boring. I don't know what the answer is....sorry. Yes, you might have married the wrong guy or maybe you just need time. Maybe you had high expectations of what it would be like. (like I did). I would give it some time and maybe even talk to him about it. He is probably feeling the same way.  

Answer 9

DO SOME ONE ELSE HAVE YOUR EYE OR WHAT YOU HAVE TO FIND WAYS TO MAKE IT WORK REALLY IF HE IS AS GREAT OF A MAN YOU SAY HE IS CAUSE ITS TO MUCH OUT HERE TO RISK WHAT YOU HAVE IAM MARRIED TO 9 YEARS TOGETHER 14 HONEY WORK ON IT TALK EXPRESS HOW YOU FEEL WHILE ITS STILL FRESH

Answer 10

Marriage is about communication and love.  It seems like communication is not going well in your relationship right now.  Maybe you should try couples counseling or marriage counseling to learn how to open up and share your thoughts and feelings.

Answer 11

Well, married life is about communication. If there is none, then forget it. Well it's your fault as much as his fault aswell. Just talk about how his day is goingor what the kids did. You have to try too.