Did I rape My wife By doing?

Question

I told my wife that I wanted to have vasectomy and she agreed to it as we both didn’t want no more kids we have 1 and married 3yrs. But I told her I couldn’t have it at this time as I have prostate and need to take care of that with the medication first before I have the vasectomy, she is very mad now saying that from now on we should use condoms as she doesn’t take the pills anymore. So last night she wanted to use the condoms and I made love to her without it as I want her skin to touch mine without anything in between, now she is mad at me saying I did rape her.

Answer 1

you didnt rape her as she could easily have stopped you.  did you tie her down or handcuff her?  probably not.  it sounds like if you did not want to have anymore kids, and were planning to have a vasectomy...you need to stick to that.  what are you going to do if she gets pregnant?  are you gonna stand there like an idiot saying "i didnt know this could happen".  if you don't want anymore kids, and she doesn't either, than you wrap it up everytime...no acceptions.  she should also be on the pill.

Answer 2

Good luck getting any now buddy.

Answer 3

well , how the heck did she not see you NOT put a condom on? ... i think you only would have raped her if she was pushing you off or told you she didn't want to do it previous to the act..... you may have tricked her but you definitely didn't rape her...

Answer 4

No I didn't rape her she wanted is just that she wanted to use protection and you didn't want it which is so unreasponsible of you 'cause neither of you want kids.

Answer 5

If she did not want her to wear a rubber, she would have Not spread her legs for it in the first place or put herself in that position.  If she wants to be protected from having a child then she should see a doctor and not rely on you to protect from it as if it's all in your hands.

Answer 6

I think you're wife needs to open a dictionary and look up the definition of rape which is "Forced sexual intercourse; sexual assault; sexual intercourse between an adult and a minor. Rape can also occur in a marriage. Typically, the husband forces himself on his wife at a time when she is unwilling to have sexual intercourse."

You did not force yourself on top of her, she was more then willing to have s*x with you.

It was irresponsible of you not to use any kind of condom or birth control, just because you wanted s*x to feel good, and not tell her. Especially if you don't want any more children

Answer 7

did she even stop u wen ya'll was doin it?

its not rape because she wanted to have s*x, but it was your wrong for doing it with out any protection

Answer 8

Well first off i'm very upset at the way you titled this, I thought it was going to be something good. Much like the titanic this thread had great potential yet sank quickly. You sir, and your wife are nut cases simply put. If your wife would acuse you of rape, why be married? Just a thought.

Is this a military marriage?

As for Izzablle's comments. WTF are you trying to say, its typing not spur of the moment public speaking. Jesus F'in Christ, its not that hard to get a point across.

Jacob O'Hara

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Answer 9

leave that crazy *** women alone.... u didnt rape her  

Answer 10

No you didn't.

She did not say No to having s*x with you.  

Answer 11

NO...thats perfectly normal...she should still be on teh pill for the time being b/c condom or no condom your sperm can still reach her ya know...and bbesides almost all ppl prefer no condom.

Answer 12

uhh. no.. it was agreed between you two.. she does not know what rape is..

Answer 13

Wow, nice.  Already jacking each other only after three years.

You really need to NOT be breeding, please, for the good of society.

You both sound pretty dim.

Answer 14

nope but you did lie and descive her

she did agree to having it so you didnt force yourself on her

she has every rigth to be mad though, because if you had told her she probably would not slept with you, and having tried the pill, let you tell me from a womans prospective it totaly can mess you up bodywise, i was only on it a few months and never again..you dont have to deal with side effects or irregular periods or whatnot, its not really fair of you...she been on it for how long? surely you can deal with using contraseption a few weeks for her sake, its not like you wont still enjoy it

try to put youself in her shoes

and for heavens sake go to the pharmacy and get a morning after pill by the way

Answer 15

"Rape" requires a 'no" or some form of rejection by one party. Failing to make your wishes known by not exhibiting some type of resistance, verbal or physical doesn't quite fit the classification of rape.

If you didn't use a condom and she wasn't aware of it then the worse your guilty of is being underhanded, a sneak and failing to abide by her wishes...which I might add are not unreasonable.

Answer 16

That is defiantly not a case of rape, unless she said to stop and you didn't stop? Don't know about that part, i wasn there.

It would only be rape if she wasn't a willing participant in the act?

Answer 17

did she know you didn't have the condom on? I think if she says stop you should stop no matter what but it is not rape if you don't stop. Did you hold her down against her will or hurt her?  That might be considered rape.

Answer 18

Did she say "NO!"  Try the anal s*x method of birth control.  Just make sure she takes a good evacuating dump before hand.  If not, you could wind up with a bit of grundle on your k**b.

Answer 19

well.. did you tell her you had a condom on? I don't think rape is the right word..She is angry and wanted a shock stop drop and listen word.

Answer 20

That's not considered rape.Rape is forced, unwanted sexual intercourse. She might feel violated because she asked you too wear a condom and you didn't but that's not rape.

Answer 21

Your wife is mistaken.  You betrayed her trust but did not rape her.

Answer 22

That's not what rape is, unless she was telling you no the whole time, in which case you are totally wrong.  

Answer 23

She expressed to you that you had to wear a condom.  You led her to believe that you would, but you didn't for your own selfish pleasure.  She feels violated.  

Though definitions vary, rape is defined in most jurisdictions as sexual intercourse, or other forms of sexual penetration, by one person ("the accused" or "the perpetrator") with or against another person ("the victim") without the consent of the victim.