Did I ruin our relationship?

Question

Did I ruin our relationship?

I have had this friend for over 2 years now. He is someone I can't picture not being in my life. When we first met, I had a crush on him and then I began to...Im not sure. I just know I felt more for him then a stupid old crush. But he had this huge thing for another girl but she wasn't interested in him. (Sound familiar? lol.) That's when everyoen around us started saying we were liek brother and sister, because I do look up to him and I go for him for advice and he is very protective over me. But for the past few months, I can't get that voice in my head to go away. There is stil about 40% of me that is still not over him and I texted him abotu 2 days ago and told him and he said he understood but he's been ignoring the rest of my texts and I called him once but I don't think I should call again and again and it's just aggrivating because he's going to college this year (in town though) and it'll be hard for me and him to see each other without talking to each other. (We aren't just gonna run into each other one day. I live in a big city.) What do I do? I know if I loose him in my life, I will never forgive myself but I'm not even sure whether or not I want to keep being his lil sis or stay in love with him. I tied between both. But I know he's not interested in me. He's very well loved by the ladies. I just...ugh. This sucks.

Answer 1

Baby look here, you already know what's going to happen. You know it because you can feel it. Sometimes you just need to let go and let God. Don't try so hard, I know that what you feel for him is real but, if he's not into you it'll eventually break your heart to find out the hard way that he doesn't feel the same way.

Answer 2

Wow, What a mess. First of all don't beat yourself up for having feelings for someone,you can't help what the heart feels. He sounds a little conceited to me. Is he ? If he was your ( Best Friend,Brother ) he wouldn't treat you the way he is right now. He should have at least gave you an explanation of what his true feelings were for you. Friend or more. Not ignore you. I don't know,maybe he is trying to take it all in right now. I would not call him anymore,text him anymore or anything.Give it some time,Let him miss you a little bit. I'm sure you will run into each other or he might call in a couple days. That is if he is the good guy you thought he was.Did he know about this crush before or is this the first he has heard of it? Shame on him if he doesn't reply to you. If anything he was your friend first and he is acting like a baby.Like i said ,he needs to step up to the plate and tell you if he has any feelings for you besides friendship. If he does tell you it's only friendship can you handle being with him and watch him with other girls and your heart is aching for him? That's a hard position to be in,I've been there and i couldn't stand it. I had to leave the friendship behind because it hurt too much. It depends how strong you are sweety.

Answer 3

Good job only calling once! That takes control doesn't it? ;) If I were you I would not contact him at all - for your sake and his. You said yourself that he is not interested in you romantically and that you aren't so sure that you want to continue on as if you are his little sister. Let him go for now so that you can begin to heal your broken heart. It will be too difficult to try and move on if you are always around him. Who knows, maybe in six months when he comes home for Christmas, you will pass him at the store and he will realize what he's been missing - or you will look at him and wonder what it was that you were so in love with.

Good Luck!