Did any new mommies miss being pregnant?

Question

my son is only 3 days old now, and I miss him terribly being in my belly, I HATED being pregnant and complained everyday and now I miss it terribly. I miss rubbing my big ole pregnant belly and feeling him move all around. I miss the way people used to compliment me and smile about how cute I looked pregnant. I miss getting all the attention because they had to take care of me to be able to take care of the baby in me. I loved how the hospital staff catered to just me in the hospital when he was still growing inside me. I am already missing my OB appts, I terribly will miss not going to them every week and feeling spoiled by him because he cared he really really "cared" about how I was progressing. I cannot stop myself from bawling my eyes out. I have bawled several times today and it takes so much to make myself stop and even when I do I still feel sad. I regret hating being pregnant. I used to complain everyday about how much he hurt me cause he was SO strong. I hate how I complained about how much weight I gained. I just overall hate that I complained because now I want it back so badly. I just need some comfort. Please.

Answer 1

I think what you're going through is normal. I missed having my son in my belly too after he was born (h**l, he's nearly 2 and sometimes I still wish I could put him back in there, if only to get some rest! LOL). Your hormones are going crazy right now, so that's what is causing you to be so emotional. If these feelings persist beyond a few weeks, or get much worse, I would mention it to your doctor as it could indicate post partum depression.

Good luck, and congratulations on the birth of your son! Being pregnant is wonderful, but nothing compares to watching your child grow and thrive! You will love it!

Answer 2

yesss i miss it  so much, my daughter is about to be 4 months on the 18th...and sometimes i catch myself rubbing my belly still lol...

Answer 3

I missed it the minute my son was born. I was so excited to meet him, but I wasn't ready. He was 18 days early and it all ended too soon. I've never met anyone besides myself who liked being pregnant and I just found out that I am again, so sayeth two positives anyways.

I can't guarantee that you will get over this feeling. My son is now 17 almost 18 months old and I felt that way almost all of the time. It's a different kind of bond that only a mother and her unborn child can have. But you'd never take back your children.

I wish you all of the luck in this case. It isn't easy. But you will pull through. The feelings might subside, but not entirely in most cases.

Answer 4

Wow, that sounds just like how Im feeling. My daughter is now 3 months old and I miss being pregnant so bad! I didnt go through this with my older son who is now 3. Its the hormones, trust me! I basically miss the attention you got when you were pregnant. But, now that my daughter is 3 months old, shes starting to do so much now and the feeling is starting to fade each day. Just hang in there, and trust me, the feeling will go away.  

Answer 5

DON'T say that. Trust me, I got pregnant a little less than a month after my daughter was born. You don't really want it back I promise. I have been pregnant for over a year and I am not enjoying myself. Be happy you have him out of you. ha. But seriously those first few days are emotional, it's not just all because of that, it's because your emotions are going crazy and you just had a baby. Probably just some baby blues. Just love him and cuddle with him all you can now because soon he will be 6 or 7 months old and mobile and won't want a thing to do with you, unless hes hungry. My daughter just wants to be everywhere and into everything. You will be fine don't worry.

Answer 6

I guess I'm kinda split 50/50 here.  I spent my last week pregnant laying in a hospital bed trying to hold off preterm labor (my son was born at 30 weeks 6 days).  So I didn't get to be really big by the time that I had him...was in some odd way looking forward to all that.  And hopefully (provided the weather cooperates this weekend) we are going to finally have a baby shower for him.

Answer 7

Many women go through what you're explaining so don't worry, it's totally normal.  You just have to adjust to all the attention being on baby now instead of you.  You probably have a little post-partum depression now too.  It will all go back to normal & you will feel better soon.  But if it doesn't, be sure to tell your doc. Good luck & congratulations!!

Answer 8

Dear,it's okay how u feel,u may have some baby blues i had that when i had my baby,i felt soo hollow and empty,cuz now i don't have someone cheerful and kicking me inside

it's totally normal about how u feel right now,actually if u didn't feel this way then there would be something wrong with u ,i used to cry and cry and sometimes from the smallest reasons.

Basically u're overwhelmed with a lot of feeling,tiredness,happiness,fear,worry,s... all that blended up together,BUT HERE IS THE GOOD NEWS IT'S GONNA GET BETTER ,i promise it will i mean it i'm not just saying ur baby will get to know u and prefer u than anyone and u will be exclusively the 1st one who would get the 1st smile from ur baby and be happier than ever when u get him to roll over or grap something from the 1st time then and only then u will feel WORTHY and get the idea that u had him inside u so he can get out and cheer u up even more

i know it seems like u wanna get back in time and be pregnant forever and it seems u will always feel sad but seriously i went through this and IT WILL GET BETTER it promise it will ,just try to relax and get some help from relatives to get some sleep or even to put a facial mask upon ur face and think ahead not before and repeat it to urself IT WILL GET BETTER :) and gratz,sweetie for being a momma :)

Answer 9

its ok you are just having some post partum depression.. talk to your doctor...  

Answer 10

Aww I'm Sorry.. =[

My Daughter Is 2 Yrs Old

& I Miss Being Pregnant SO Bad.

I Want More Kids, But I Have To Wait Awhile.

My Fiance Is In The Army And Wants To Wait Until He

Comes Home From His Iraq Deployment,

Before We Begin Trying For A Baby Of Our Own.

=] I Loved Being Pregnant & I Want All The Attention Back So Badly.

I Hope You Feel Better Soon Darling.

Have Fun With Your Baby Boy.

♥

Answer 11

I miss the kicks too. But now you have this beautiful baby that you will love more and more every day.

Answer 12

Didn't have the chance. I was pregnant two months after giving birth to my first child. After being pregnant for nearly two years, I didn't miss it, but I was amazed to see my own feet.

Answer 13

Sounds like you just liked the attention from everyone around you then just being pregnant!

Answer 14

I remember having that felling when I first gave birth, it is totally natural, think about it, you carry that bump on you for months, not only that but you know something extremely spacial is inside that bump, you fall in love with that and of course you miss it.

it will go away after a few more days, trust me.

Answer 15

girl dont stress yourself.  I felt the same way as you did. i used to always get the attention and compliments as well and i loved it. i had an absolutely perfect pregnancy and loved every minute of it but mine got cut short.  i delivered a healthy baby at 31 weeks. i still miss my pregnancy and hes 4 months old now.  dont worry, it will get better.  but i totally feel you.

Answer 16

sounds like you may have a mild post partum, but these feelings are also normal in moderation. i also miss the feeling of my baby moving around :(...talk to your doc about it and enjoy you baby out in the world. you can always get pregnant again right? good luck :)

Answer 17

my little is 3 1/2 months old and i still miss her in my belly and i miss her being a newborn now too. i miss my big belly and her kickin but i'll get to do it again when i decide to have another one  

Answer 18

Congrats on your new arrival. To answer your question, YES I miss it terribly. I had such a wonderful pregnancy, I couldn't ask for a better one. I even miss being on bed rest. My SO would tear up everytime he's stare at my belly getting excited. I miss the kicking and moving around. I miss it alot!!

Answer 19

I think its normal to have all of these mixed feelings. Having a baby is a huge responsibility and basically your wishing that you baby was safely back inside you and all of the pressure of looking after a newborn is taken away. I'm sure in a couple of weeks once things have settled down you will be fine.  

Answer 20

I would guess that you have "baby blues" which is not post pardum depression.  Anyway I also complained about being pregnant but then missed it at soon as she came out!! Big time!  I had the baby blues the first 2 days I was home from the hospital SO BAD ( she was 3 days old ) that when her swing played this certain melody I cried my eyes out and couldn't stop...and I have no idea why.  I kept having fits of crying that were SEVERE.  After 2 days I had to go to her check up appointment and so I forced my self to put on make-up, do my hair and find some clothes ( I still had a little pregnancy weight but thank god it was winter so I could cover up ) and I went to the doctors then my Grandfather's house.  Up until this point I had not eaten but when I got to my Grandfather's house he made me tons of food and I ate like a pig!  Conversed and visited for a while...after that, CURED.  I really think you need to do yourself up pretty and go out, even if it's to the grocery store.  Good luck, hope you feel better.

Answer 21

after i had my first child i dont think i really missed it but now just 5 months after ive had my second i find myself missing it terribly. but i also suffered from post partum depression this time also. and its so weird cuz i hated being pregnant and all i wanted the whole time was to just hurry up and have the baby. sometimes i still feel the 'ghost kicks' and i find myself putting my hand on my stomache as if i was still pregnant. ive even considered talking to my s/o about having another one already but i dont want to regret getting pregnant again so fast...

Answer 22

Sometimes I miss having her kick inside of me, but for the most part I do not miss being pregnant at all!  I am so happy to feel normal again!  I love having her in my arms so much more.  I love being able to kiss her little cheeks and feet.  I love watching her expressions change without her control.  Its so much more fun to me to actually have her with me now and to have her be apart of my life!

Answer 23

oh yeh. she was so much more manageable when she was in my tummy!

you have a newborn, the way you feel is totally normal. things are up in the air right now, you are getting to know your baby, your tired, hormaonal...

but i promise it gets better. soon he will be smiling at you, interacting and thats when it starts to get fun. he will be a better sleeper in the night and you wont be so tired.

but think of it like this, you love him so much and if you were to get pregnant again soon, could you give him all the attention you would like to?

Nichola x*x

Answer 24

You are just hormonal because it has only been 3 days.  Within a few days you will realize that now EVERYTHING is about the baby, not you and you will be okay with it.  :-)

You might still miss being pregnant because of the closeness you felt but you will soon develop such a bond that is WAY better than being pregnant with your child.

Answer 25

Oh yes.... I love my daughter who is nearly 7 months now but I still miss being pregnant. I loved my pregnancy (with a few complaints mixed in towards the end of course) and can't wait until I am ready for number two. I wish I could get pregnant now but I now I would not cope with another bub just yet...  can't wait until Lucy is 1 to start trying again

Answer 26

First, congrats on the baby.

I did miss being pregnant for a while after my daughter was born. It's a weird cycle that your body goes through. First you have to adjust to actually being pregnant and that took me about 8 months and then poof it's gone. It's like being alone for the first time in 10 months! That is what depressed me the most after Kaleigh was born. I felt so so lonely the first time I ran to the store by myself. I cried all the way there. Also, you are no longer the center of everyones attention, it's all about the baby now. It took me a long time to realize that. Plus the surge of hormones rushing through your body right now do not help the sad feelings. Believe me when I tell you that once you get over the initial shock of not being pregnant anymore you'll be grateful that you don't have to lug around that 20 - 25 pound belly anymore! :-) But it may take a couple of weeks.