Did any of you mommies become army wives after having children?

Question

My husband is thinking about joining the army to better our lives...we have an 11 month old son and want more kids...just wondering if anyone has been through this. I'd love e-mails with experience and someone to bounce my thoughts off of. Thanks!

Answer 1

My husband is in the Army, and is currently deployed at this time. Our daughter is 20 months old. We plan to start trying for another when he returns.

It is tough...I won't lie. It's hard to suddenly be thrust into being a single mommy, when you're used to having a partner there to help you. Plus, I've had to deal with a toddler who doesn't understand why Daddy is always at "work".

However, just because your husband might join the Army, it doesn't mean he will be deployed. Also, not sure if he wants to join the Reserves or join Full-time, but be rest-assured that the Army takes care of the families.

We are in Month 3 of a 10 month deployment. I've finally gotten into a routine, and the days go by faster than I thought they would. I have also made some friends with some wonderful "Army Wives" who know exactly what I'm going through. If this is something he decides to pursue, and you ever have any questions, feel free to e-mail me.

*Also, all those war movies and that show "Army Wives" on Lifetime......Nope, you will NEVER watch them. I avoid them at all cost...LOL.

Edit: I just wanted to add that, like the women above me, there *are* times when you are absolutely furious at the Military. Especially when your husband as to leave. But, as far as money wise, the Military is the only reason why I've been able to be a SAHM since my daughter was born. So, there are some definite pro's and con's.

Edit #2: Actually, I didn't thumbs down anyone. I actually agreed with you that the Military can suck at times. Believe me, if I had thumbs down you, or anyone, I own up.

Answer 2

ok my friend who is a wife and mother led me to these questions first of it is not army policy to seperate famlies  third the army will not  make any promis when it comes to soldiers being with their famlies

there are some dutty stations that wifes and children can not go too

and there are sometimes when soldier will be seperated from famlies for months at a time yes even when their man is not away to war. they do this for a reason its so ur man has a better chance of comeing home from war. now the whole woman who is not getting mariage pay there is no such thing as mariage pay what there army does have is basic alwawance for houseing single and with dependent. if they are not receiveing this pay its the soldiers fault for not following up and if the soldier is wearing rank he is not getting payed for its because he is not that rank even if he tells u he is. some soldiers are stupid and go home and lie to their wives about what is going on at work and what their leaders are telling them  so some wifes get a destorted view of the military not saying there are not plenty of reasons for wifes to hate the military the fact that there husband does not make enough is not a good reason i have plenty of e-3 or e-4 that live in decent houses that make enough to suport them and their famlies and yes most have kids

once again the army makes no promis to famly members ever about time the soldier will be able to spend at home it all depends on training requirements (which is what will bring ur soldier home) and weather the soldier gets in trouble or not. yes the army does loose paperwork but it will never take them 8 months to start basic alowance for houseing or figure out that they promoted someone  if ur husband is telling u they did then he is ****** stupid and not takeing responsibility for geting it corected himself

Answer 3

My husband is in the us army and we have been married since dec and we still aren't making marriage pay. they have promised us a lot and we have not got it and we are not the only ones. the military isn't all that great. i love my husband and i support him and the troops but the gov't really screws us over!!!

Linedancer~yea the pay might be right if they actually got off there a$$ and paid it all right. its been since dec and we dont make the right amount causethe keep "misplacing" the paper work. my husband is a spc. and is being paid single soldier pvt. pay!!!

Answer 4

I agree with Shantel. My hubby is in the military and it isn't all that great. They always are talking about how important they think family is but all they really want to do is control you and separate families.

*Linedancer, please don't thumbs down people for their opinions. I've been dealing with the military for over 12 years and am entitled to feel how I do. I stay at home also for the time being but would much rather work 3 jobs if it meant my husband was home safe with his family!