Did anyone really want a baby badly but decided to focus on their career first?

Question

I am in a relationship with the love of my life and have been for almost two years and lately I look at him and have the strongest urge to have a child with him. He feels the same and I think we will get engaged soon. We are both 24 and I have always loved and adored children but I am at a crucial stage in my career at the moment. It is in music and it is just starting to take off. But my longing for a baby is so strong I can barely concentrate on anything else! It is really distracting! This isn't a big problem, I know, I just want to know if anyone has been in the same position and if you waited/decided to have a baby or how things turned out for you. It's that darned biological urge kicking in big time!

Answer 1

Well, i had aproblem with me,  iwas not very fertile. I would not ovulate at 21 yrs old. Even though I got my periods, I never ovulated..After fours of marriage and not using protection, I still did not get pregnant..while others around me where pregnant at asingle try. My sis in four years had two children and I couldn't even have one.

I also go to college, im becomming a occupational therapist, and i know i will finish my dream to become one..at any age..but i needed a babysoo bad..

I went to the fertility specialist so they can test and see w hat the problem was, they said that i dont ovulate and i needed medicine to ovulate, they put me on clomid and I conceived.

If i had waited three or four more years, i would have been older and then it would have been much harder for me to concieve b/c my body would have gotten even more infertile than it already is..

So, what i would suggest is that if your very fertile and can wait couple more years to get pregnant, then do so..if your not so fertile and youwant to have children..then probably now will be the best time for you to try..it all depends on your body.

Answer 2

My husband and I were married 5 years before we got pregnant. We weren't sure in the beginning whether we truly wanted children or not, and then we decided that we did, but were in the middle of education and career changes. We waited until we both graduated and our careers were steady and stable to conceive. We now have 4 month old twin boys and couldn't be happier. It was the right decision (for us) to wait, but it is a decision that you have to make. You are still young and have time to have both a career and children. Best wishes to you both.