Did he really ditch me slowly or is it just my imagination?

Question

I do regret this situation so just please tell me if you think I am right about this..Ok well I messed around with a married man for the 3rd time and this past time was the first time we had s*x(we have only done it once). Well his wife found the texts from my phone number on the phone bill w/in the first week of us talking and he told me that we needed to cool off a bit. We go to the same gym and he had been going up there to see me and she followed him up there one time. He told me on the phone last week that he was going out of town for the 4th of July weekend and then that Saturday I saw him at walmart with his family. I would ask him if I could call him at the gym and he would tell me yes and he told his wife that I tried to talk to him when he was the one telling me to call him. He told me last week that I could call him Thursday and I saw him at the gym on Wednesday and asked him if it was still ok if I called him and he told me no. But his wife confronted me about all of it this past Sunday. He went to the gym on Sunday before she got there and he called me from the gym phone and told me she was going to come up there to talk to me and told me to deny everything that we ever did and so I listened and did what he told me so that he would still talk to me, but now he wont let me call him. What is he thinking?

Answer 1

Hmmmm...you wouldn't happen to know greenturtle would you?  Look you obviously don't like any of the answers you're getting here so quit asking.  

Go boil a bunny or something.

Answer 2

Here's an idea.

DON'T SLEEP WITH MARRIED MEN!

Got that? I bloody hope so as it's a simple concept and one which will save a lot of people a lot of problems.

There are plenty of single men around, no need to involve yourself in destroying a family or waste your time being with someone who can't give you their full attention.

Answer 3

Yes of course he's ditching you. He's embarrassed and you should be too.

Answer 4

He's thinking he found himself someone who is easy and not very bright.  He's also thinking you're so obsessed that you may be a danger to his family.

Answer 5

You have put yourself in a position of desperation and self- degradation.  You are at his mercy.   Please preserve whatever dignity you have remaining and bow out gracefully.

Answer 6

You want singles and dating

Answer 7

He's having a mid life crises.

You're being taken for a ride.

Do you really want to be the girl he calls when he feels old and wants to be cheered up?

Answer 8

He is thinking, "oh ****, I need to try and cover my *** as much as possible in the hopes that my wife can forgive my sorry ***". He is not thinking, "I'm going to miss my mistress so much and I'd do anything for her if only I weren't married". You need to stop asking this question, go rent a funny movie, do some self-realization and find a nice single man (after you've forgiven yourself for being a homewrecker)

Answer 9

I'm not a huge Particle fan but he's absolutely right here...

If he's married it's a NO GO. EVERY time. He's not getting divorced. He isn't leaving her soon. He is lying because he wants to have s*x with you.

Have some dignity.