Did my friend have an abortion?

Question

she is 25. She has had several abortions since she was 18.

Anyways, she got pregnant in November 2007. She started to get a belly and everything, and she had a baby shower in May.

She was due in July. She hasnt called me, so I figure she had the baby already. I called the other day, and her boyfriend said that she isnt due until December. I didnt think that was possible, so I asked him about it. He said that she "lost" the first baby, and she didnt know it, and this is the second baby.

The dates dont add up, and I dont know if she had an abortion or what. I dont understand. What do you think happened?

Answer 1

I think it's none of your buisness until she makes it your buisness.  

Answer 2

its possible she is just trying to get attention from people and wasnt pregnant.

Answer 3

She could have had a miscarriage.  

Answer 4

Definitely think it's none of your business...

Answer 5

First off if she hasn't told you then you should probably stay out of it! It is completely possible that she lost the first early on and is now pregnant again. Maybe she did not wish to talk about her loss! If its been that long since you saw her maybe she felt you weren't a good enough friend to talk to about it. No offense! However if she is a good friend like you say she is? Stay in touch this time and be supportive. Pregnancy is stressful and especially if she lost the last baby. Come on why would he lie to you about something like that. If she never tells you, respect her wishes and leave the subject alone!

You do not tell us how far along she was a baby shower too! Most likely she wasn't even 4 or 5 months!There is a reason women wait until 6 or 7 month to have baby shower. Leave it alone! Its considered bad luck!

Answer 6

maybe she did lose the baby later in the pregnancy, and didnt wanna talk to anyone.... no shes pregnant again

Answer 7

Exactly what the boyfriend said.

Answer 8

dates dont add up right, but maybe boyfriend was right

Answer 9

Who knows. Call HER and ask her. That's pretty weird, huh

Answer 10

Could be the boyfriends telling the truth.

Or could be she wasn't pregnant until now and she just wanted attention..

Answer 11

If she had the baby shower in May she would have already been 7 months pregnant. In order for her to be due in December she would of had to already have lost that baby and got pregnant with the new one in March/April. So there is no possible way she lost the first baby after the baby shower, she would have already been in her second month with the december baby. she must have found out she was pregnant again  and went ahead and had the baby shower in May for the new one and just not let anyone know. That's pretty twisted if you ask me!

Answer 12

she may had amisscarriage.. after having several abortions..the uterine lining is not as strong as it is w/out having abortion..she might have lost the baby..

Answer 13

She may have lost the baby.

What does it matter now if she had an abortion or not? If she is actually having a baby now, that's the main thing.

Answer 14

She very well could have lost the baby.  Women have miscarriages.

Answer 15

I dont know if she had one or not but you are right about the months not adding up..if she were due in December then she would have gotten pregnant around March so by her baby shower in May she would have been pregnant with the second baby...either way I wouldnt give her a hard time about it..( I know you probably wouldnt but you know)  and if you are curios, then just ask her about it and let her know your are there for her if in fact she did miscarry..its sad and hard on her Im sure...anyways...Id ask before I jumped to conclusions.I hope she and her baby are okay!

Answer 16

She could have had a stillborn where the baby is dead when it's born or dies during birth. He probably just didn't want to go into detail about it.  If she was that far along she couldn't have had an abortion.  Something probably just happened. But what doesn't make since is that she would have been pregnant with number two in may when she had the baby shower for baby number one... hmmm.... interesting but who knows it's probably more polite not to even get involved.

Answer 17

Your friend needs to keep her f.u.cking legs closed. I'm totally pro-choice, but abortion is NOT a form of birth control whatsoever.  Your friends a w***e.

Answer 18

wow, that wierd if you ask me. Just ask her! Maybe she will tell ya, But its really no of your business if she had one or not. But way would she have an abortion and then get pregnant to the same guy AGAIN!! dum if you ask me

Answer 19

If she is due in December than she got pregnant in March or April because pregnancy lasts 40 weeks or more sometimes.  Anyway it is possible she lost the first baby and that would not be something she would necessarily broadcast.  It doesn't matter if she had an abortion it is not really any of your business (sorry)..and if her boyfriend says she lost the first baby then that is likely what happened because why would she lie about something like that. just be supportive and happy for her with this baby.

Answer 20

I doubt she would have a baby shower then abort the baby, then instantly get pregnant again. I truly think she had a miscarriage. OR she might not have even been pregnant, just trying to get attention (like the lady above said.)

Answer 21

huh that's wierd...idk she might have had a miscarriage cuz the abortions have damaged her so badly. or maybe she had second thoughts about the baby thing.

Answer 22

it's illegal to get an abortion after the 3rd month. When someone one says they "lost" the baby it means they had a miscarriage.