Did she over-react or am I just a heartless b*tch?

Question

My grandpa died two years ago, and I have kept in touch with his widow, the woman he married after my grandma died when I was in high school. Anyway, I sent her an e-mail yesterday, not realizing that my address book still says "Grandpa and Barb." Today I got an e-mail from her asking why I was trying to hurt her and why I would send her an e-mail that said Grandpa on it. She also went on about how much she loves him and misses him. Worst of all, it's only a couple of weeks before the anniversary of his death.

So, my question is, did she over-react? She even mis-spelled my name. I've known her for over 20 years, so I think she did it on purpose because she should know how to spell my name by now. What should I do?

Answer 1

Apologize to her and let her know you did not mean to hurt her. With it being so close to the anniversary, she somewhat over reacted but it probably brought back many memories that she had suppressed. I don't think you did this on purpose, so tell her your sorry.

Answer 2

She overreacted! But she may still be hurting and the email may have brought it all back. My sister died 7 yrs ago and it's still very painful. Just apologize to her and tell her that it was a mistake and you didn't mean to hurt her.

Answer 3

I think she over reacted but under the circumstances with it been so near to the anniversary I would not make a big deal out of this.

Answer 4

She over-reacted.

I can kind of understand why, I cannot imagine losing the one I love.

You are not a heartless ******!

Answer 5

Just explain to her you didn't realize the "grandpa" part was still on your email and apologize.

Don't let it get blown up into something rediculous.

You are both adults, she will understand.

Then change your email.

Keep it simple, and it will be simple.

Make it complicated, and that's what it will turn into.