Did you and your spouse/SO always agree on the number of children that you wanted?

Question

If not, how did you compromise?

Answer 1

We haven't agreed yet.

We have fraternal twins right now who are 15 months old and surprise!!!  I'm pregnant with our third.

I want this to be our last but whenever I bring up sterilization to my husband he seems very sad.

I haven't decided.  Part of me thinks maybe sterlization would be a mistake at this time so maybe I'll opt for an IUD instead.

Answer 2

My husband and I both feel we'd like a large family.  How large isn't really known.  LOL.  We had our daughter in Oct 2006 and we're having a boy in Sept 2008.  We still don't feel "done".  We are just going to keep going until we feel enough is enough.  I seriously don't think it'll be anymore than 4 or 5 as that's what we've talked about as a limit, but who knows?  We may feel that we want more after that.  We just go with the flow and have another baby and wait until they're about a year old and then if we want another we try.

Answer 3

we had never really talked about how many we wanted i had always just wanted 2 and we now have a little girl who is 5 and a little girl who is 17 months old.but now that we have our 2 girls i dont feel satisfied i feel like i eventually want 1 more and we have talked about it but are not ready right now our 2 keep us on our feet lol.but maybe we will try for# 3 and even if it is another girl we would defintley be done i would love to have a little boy but 3 kids would be enough for me.

Answer 4

To begin with I wanted a big family ( four kids at least) but my husband (who already had a daughter that lives with us) only wanted one more. Eventually we decided to have one, then wait until they were a little older and decide if we wanted more. Well, we ended up with twins and decided that they (along with their half sister) are plenty!

Answer 5

Have the first one first if both of you agree to it and as the younger you are, the better it is if you intend to have one.Don't wait till you are "too old " as taking care of your child is lifetime and energy draining too.Both of you must sit down and put to pen all the plus and minus of having a child- like, do we have the time?Can we take care of our child if both are working? What are we going to do with our assets if we don't even have a child to pass on to? Let nature takes its course as both of you will know later whether you will go for the second after the first experience. If you are financially well off and very much like to have a big family,then go for the third

Kelvin Loh

Answer 6

We never agreed on a number. We just agreed when the time was right. After our first we thought we would be settled with just one child. After a few years passed, I felt the need for another, and he agreed it was a good time so we now have 2. I know my max is 2, while he thinks 3 would be acceptable. I said we better decide before I turn 30 which would be in 2 years. After that I will no longer bare anymore children. One boy and one girl, my heart is content. Physically and emotionally I don't think I can handle a third child. My husband is starting to think the same way since our little girl who will be 6 months is more of a handful than her brother was. Never the less, she is still an easy baby to take care of compared to many other children we know.

Answer 7

My Husband wants 100 children.

I wanted none at a time, then settled for 5.

We now have 5.

Why 5? That's how many seats I have left in my 4WD when Hubby & I are in it.

Does he want more?

Yes, but since I am carrying them and birthing them, I get the final say. We have been talking about another child, but all plans are on hold for another 2 years. Then we will talk about it.

Answer 8

we wanted 2, we had our first daughter then i got pregant again and had twins, so that was 3 haha but then we decided on one more and had another baby girl, wo we currently have 4!

i want one more but im not so sure that hubby does haha.

Answer 9

Well mine said he wasn't ready for children but I ended up pregnant and then 3months after that one was born I got pregnant again. Now he wants another? I suppose just pick a number in the middle. If you want 3 and he wants 1 then compromise at 2.  

Answer 10

When we had 4 we thought that was it until I started to miss having a baby in the house.  We agreed to have ONE more but that was going to be it!  Well, that pregnancy turned out to be triplets so our one more turned into three more.  We are now very sure there will be no more.  He has already had the vasectomy.

Answer 11

I wanted five, he wanted two.  We started with one.  LOL.  We had two by plan, and we decided that two felt like enough.  Number three came as a surprise, and while I love her and don't regret it, two was much easier for us.  He had a vasectomy to prevent further surprises.  My advice:  Parenting is impossible to understand until you are a parent.  Have one, live with it for a year, then talk about having more.  You'll have an easier time working it out.