Did you ever get nervous after you got engaged?

Question

I knew I was going to end up with my boyfriend and look forward to being with him forever every day. I just feel as if I am getting some sort of post engagement cold feet. Didn't think it was possible, but the idea that I will be with him forever didnt bother me before and now I am experiencing a bit of nervousness. The whole, am I doing the right thing thought process. He is amazing and I couldn't imagine being with anyone else so I know I am doing the right thing, I have just had this nervousness for the last few days. What can I do?

Answer 1

i got very nervous the night of the rehearsal.  very!  started to have trouble breathing & i felt very anxious.  

i too had been w/ my husband for a very long time & knew the very frist second i saw him that we'd be married ... someday.  

my advise to you is to take a day, an afternoon, an hour & just relax ... alone.  try to not think about being engaged, think instead about all the great times you've had w/ your fiance.  focus on yourself for a bit ... go get a pedicure or for a nice walk.

it's kind of scarry to say "Hey, this is it ... Forever!" but you sound like you know he's the one.  if you're not feeling better sooner than later, maybe have a longer engagement ...

i wish you the best & hope you start to feel better!! =)

Answer 2

Thats natural! just remember why exactly you said yes!

Answer 3

I wasn't nervous, but I'm sure I'll be the day before my wedding! I'm very excited now! I don't know if it's normal to be nervous about being engaged. Forever is a LONG time though. Good luck & congrats.

Answer 4

You're totally having NORMAL feelings.  It's a big step to commit to someone for forever and it's natural to be a bit scared and second guess yourself.  You'll be fine.  Just keep going forward and realize you're marrying the man of your dreams!

Answer 5

Well I havent gotten engaged but you could relax and play wii and stuff nothing to stress about

Answer 6

Forever is a long time ... It's natural to be a bit nervous.

Answer 7

Totally normal.  Just tell yourself that there is NO way to predict what life with someone for 50 years will be like.  So there is really no way to prep yourself or try to figure it all now.

The best thing you can do is discuss your anxieties with him to practice open communication and let him talk about any of his own worries, and try to plan a wedding that isn't too out of control and that will be sweet and meaningful to both of you.

It will pass; use it to try extra hard and be a wonderful partner!  Best advice I can give: choose your battles wisely, have a sense of humor, and communicate EVERYTHING.

Answer 8

I think it's entirely normal.

My fiance is my best friend, and sometimes I wonder if we should stay best friends and not get married.  But I can't imagine living with anyone else for the rest of my life, so I know I'm making the right decision.  Lucky for me we have the same goals, career ambitions, and hobbies.

It's hard not to feel like everything is changing.  But I don't think it does, you become "husband and wife" instead of "boyfriend and girlfriend".   I don't think your relationship with him will change, so if you enjoy it now, try to get over the nerves.  But it does happen, and sometimes it's recurring.  But most of the time you have the feeling that this can't possibly be a mistake.

Congrats & good luck!

Answer 9

Haha! I was going to ask the same thing! The other night out of no where I suddenly felt like someone had thrown cold water on me and I started freaking out about how everything is going to change forever! It's not doubts about him because he is amazing but it's "forever" that really got me going. Once I started thinking about it it started snowballing until I was picturing myself being exhausted from tending to the kids (which we don't have yet) because they had been sick. : )

These feelings were gone in the morning and made me kind of laugh but I think we're pretty normal. Good luck to you.