Did you have a child born on Feb 13th 1980 and gave him up for adoption?

Question

My son is looking for his birth parents. Please no silly answers. Thank you

Answer 1

No, but I hope he finds them.

Answer 2

www.adoption.com and www.adopteeconnect.org have a reunion registries online.  People on www.reunion.com love to do searches.  If you post the information in the reunion forums, someone will try to help you.

You can also try searching for a reunion registry for the specific state he was born in.  For example if it was Arizona, google adoption arizona registry.

Answer 3

http://www.findmybiologicalparent.com

Answer 4

First I would like to say how very lucky your son is to have a mom like you!

"CK" and "Devin's Mom" are absolutely right.  You should do what both of them suggest.  

http://www.adoption.com/ is a great site.  Browse their reunion section.  They have links to many good tools, and they offer a lot of good advice.

You should register with http://www.isrr.net/, which is the largest, non-profit, passive reunion registry (a type of registry where both parties have to register for a match to occur).  

Do search for your state's official reunion registry and register there, as CK suggested.

Go ahead and register at as many online reunion registries as you can (search: "online reunion registry", etc.), but be very careful with this.  You may be tempted to give them as much identifying information as you can in hopes of increasing the chances of finding the one you're looking for, but doing so also increases the chances that someone might take advantage of that information.  I know of many, many people who have been contacted by such predators with "matches" or soliciting money to search.  So give the primary facts like 1) date of birth, 2) gender of the adoptee, 3) the name of the hospital, 4) city, 5) state, and, 6) if you know it, the name of the agency or attorney who handled the adoption.  I do not recommend giving any more information than that.  

Look into your state's laws regarding the adoptee's rights to obtain "non-identifying information" about your son's birthmother.  No, this information will not provide names or addresses, but it might give some very important clues.

If you're very eager to actively search, you should begin by contacting people who call themselves "search angels".  They DO NOT CHARGE for their services and are often very experienced at locating people.  The only things they might charge for are for actual expenses (i.e. postage, copies, etc.)  Btw, sometimes search angels are able to work magic using that "non-identifying information".

I do not recommend paying searchers unless you, or someone you know, knows them.  There are many very good paid searchers, but far too many are eager to take advantage of you.

BE PATIENT, and don't get discouraged if you don't get results quickly.  It does take some of us years to find the ones we're looking for.  Don't burn yourself out -- pace yourself.  Stay cautious.

I wish you good luck!

Answer 5

You may want to put just a few more details, like city and state and have him register with

www.isrr.net

and as many state and private run reunion registries.  

Also go to this site and check on your states law regarding what info he can receive through the adoption agency or the state.

http://local.reunion.adoption.com/

Good luck!

Answer 6

This is a silly place to check for that. And if someone gave your kid up almost 30 years ago, they're probably not looking forward to having them back...?

Answer 7

go to www.reunion.com

That might help.

Answer 8

please go on line and use one of those lost loved one finders. just put in lost family member or find people .com and it will get you started.  If you have names or places it is a good place to start good luck

Answer 9

Can't you try one of those geneology search sites?  Maybe his birth mum or dad posted on there looking for him too.  Good luck, l hope he finds them.