Did you have a wedding, is it important to you?

Question

We're thinking about canceling our wedding. Just do it at the courthouse. I'm not the type of girl that dream about a wedding. We don't have much money and his parents are being to demanding and not helping. I don't have family. The only thing is our friends are very excited and been saving up money and cancel their vacation to fly to the the wedding.

Answer 1

We are traditional Roman Catholics.  Not only do we practice our faith, we do our best to live it as well.

As Catholics, we have to be married in a church, by a Priest, so we did.  We wanted to because we wanted the Blessing only a Nuptial Mass would bring.

We had a small, but very elegant and pricey reception.  We wanted the best, so we kept it small and intimate and had the best food, and drink with those that cared about us most.

I too am not for big weddings.  For me, the day was far too serious to be made into a spectacle for all.

Congratulations to you!

Answer 2

I think weddings are important. It's a celebration of your union and the love you have for one another. I couldn't imagine going to a courthouse...it's a very special day!

Answer 3

I don't think the wedding is that important...it's your day and you should do it how you want.  Save the money for something else, like a house, or just put it in your savings.  I am on my second marriage and never had a wedding...I don't regret it.

Answer 4

I had a very small wedding about 20 people there only immediate family and super close fiends. I think pictures of you and your hubby to be are more important. A friend took pictures and accidental erased them of her disk and that's really the only thing i miss i don't miss any wedding things but pictures. I wish I had some one professional do them or at least have those memories. But if you want to get married in the court house that's cool just like try to go out to dinner and have pictures taken that are professional. The memories are the ones that you will miss if you don't get any. Good luck and congrats :)

Answer 5

I had a big wedding the first time. I never really wanted the big wedding but my mom did. We divorced 20 years later. The 2nd time I got married at the courthouse with 2 strangers for witnesses.

Too many people spend more time and energy worrying about their weddings instead of their marriages.

Answer 6

Didn't spend your savings on the cost of a ceremony. Later in life if and when you can afford it and want to have the whole show then you can re-new the vows.

I have been married both in a courthouse and a ceremony. The courthouse worked much better as I didn't have the pressure of having to invite people I may have "felt" forced to. It still did the the job.

The ceremony was expensive , wasteful and no better functionally than the courthouse process but this came with a far higher price tag.

What matters is the couple and how they feel for each other not the act that joins them legally

Answer 7

no a wedding is not important to me, we going to get married at  city hall

Answer 8

We had a small wedding (both our first): about 26 people at best, and kept it to family and very close friends.  We found that, not only was it cheaper to pull off, but by keeping it smaller, everyone had more opportunity to get to know the other people.  Everyone said it was clearly one of the best wedding ceremonies they've been to (not to toot our own horns)... :-)

Good Luck!