Did you lose your virginity to your spouse/partner? Were they virgins before they had s*x with you?

Question

For those who say you and your partner weren't each others firsts, isn't ita little uncomfortable knowing they were intimate with another person physically and emotionally?

Answer 1

I lost my virginity to my now-husband. I had fooled around with other guys before, but =he was the first and only person I ever had s*x with. He wasn't a virgin when we met....he had been with a few women before me. neither of us care....I dont care he has been with other women and he dosent care I have fooled around with other guys. all that matters is whats going on now.  

Answer 2

No, I don't sit around think about the women he was with before me. I know that he loves me, those women are in the past, and that we have a bright future together. He can't change what he did in the past, and I wouldn't want him to. Being with all the wrong people helped him to be appreciate being with the right one. And, I cannot tell you how happy I am that I didn't marry the guy I first slept with. I have a happy, healthy, loving relationship with my husband and we both have exes that we were intimate with.

Answer 3

Yes

No

I don't worry about my husband's past relationships.  I know he's committed to me and the past is the past.  We've been together a long time and often joke about some of his exes and youthful flings!

Answer 4

No, no, and no.

And to those who say, "and I don't have to worry about STDs and other kids", I don't have to either. Just because you sleep with someone who isn't a virgin, doesn't mean you have to worry about STDs. Also, I am blessed with the most beautiful stepson I could ask for. As far as ex's go, if you're going to be jealous of someone in someone else's past, maybe you should reconsider whether or not you're ready for a relationship with that person.

Answer 5

Wow, this really depends on your age. I was my first's first (if that makes sense) and would have felt scandalized if he'd been with someone before me. A few boyfriends later I found myself dating someone who was saving himself for marriage, and it was very uncomfortable for me. The most important thing is balance; if your virginity is important to you, then it should be important to your partner as well.  

Answer 6

Yes, I lost my virginity to my husband - we were still dating at the time. He had been intimate with other people before, but he was always very open about it if I wanted to ask questions about his past relationships. And no, it didn't bother me that he had been with other people before me; he made those choices before we even knew each other, and I couldn't (and would not) fault him for past decisions. Had I found the right person before him, I would have probably chosen to be intimiate with other people as well. And if it took him however many people that he didn't enjoy and chose me to spend his life with, then I'm happy. The rest does not matter to me.

Answer 7

I lost my virginity to my high school sweetheart - he was also a virgin.  I am now 32 and don't even think about my past lovers or my partners.  The past is the past.

Answer 8

yes

no

and I don't care. It's a silly reason to make a fuss about.

Answer 9

no, no and no

Answer 10

yes

no

no

Answer 11

no it doesn't bother me, my husband and I had both slept with one other person before we got married. It has never really been an issue and I think it makes me appreciate him more. It showed me what it was like to TRULY be loved by someone as opposed to being used by someone.

Answer 12

Ones past should not stop a loving relationship from continuing.  For instance, a person who had s*x with someone in high school but later found their true love and married that person, and loves and respects that person isn't to be judged from past mistakes.  So no I was not a virgin, neither was my wife but our pasts don't effect the love we have for each other and our marriage is solid.  The only problem I see is someone who has an abusive past with their spouse might draw concerns about the present wife's safety.

Answer 13

y

y

y is it ur business ask the real question

"am i a s**t?"

Answer 14

yes, i lost my virginity to my partner.

i was in someway his first.

he lost his, because he got very drunk, and passed out, and practically got raped by a girl who was obsessed with him.

he HATES her

so we really don't count that.

and he's fooled aroun with other girls, but nothing ever as intamite as we are.

if he would of, i would feel very weird, and sometimes i do feel jelous of his previous relationships.

we have been together about a year.

Answer 15

i lost my virginity to my gf and she did too we broke up yeasterday tho:( but we planning on getting back together

Answer 16

no, it is not uncomfortable knowing we weren't each other's firsts. Usually grown up mature people know  we all had lives before meeting each other and falling in love, nothing wrong with that.  

Answer 17

My husband was the first and only person I have ever slept with. In fact he was the first person I ever kissed. (I was not his first kiss though), and I was the first person he slept with. I have never doubted our relationship and it's very reassuring to know that I am the only person he was ever with because I don't have to worry about STDs, jealous ex's or other children.

Answer 18

no, no, and no.  she's human.  I love who she is now, not who she would be if a little piece of skin was still intact.

Answer 19

Yes, I'll lose my virginity to my boyfriend once I've married him.

He'll be a virgin.

I think s*x is beautiful and all about giving yourself to the other person, right?  So why should you have to protect yourself from them?  You shouldn't.  Making love inside of a marriage just makes so much more sense

Answer 20

no

no

and no

Answer 21

Yes.. No.. Not Really (the past is the PAST)

Answer 22

I'm 16 and havin s*x and no, I'm not going to marry him, but I love him and have been with him for 16 moths

Answer 23

My husband now was my first but I made out w/a few guys along the way.  If I was his first he's not telling me although he says that I am but I just dnt believe him...I guess that it would be a lil weird at first