Did you man leave you when he found out you were pregnant?

Question

I find it rather amazing how many men on here leave their woman because they find out she is pregnant. Were you on birth control? (Also amazing how many women get pregnant on birth control) How did you decide to keep the baby and what was his reaction? I mean, did he leave immediately or try to talk you out of it? My husband was very happy we were pregnant and cried, he was killed by a drunk driver when I was just a few months pregnant (our daughter is now 16 months old) so I'm doing this alone as well. But I'm amazed at how many women here say the man just left! Seriously, did even a little bit of you want a baby and think that if you got pregnant he would eventually accept the fact? Is he gone gone? Out of the picture?

Answer 1

I was married at the time that i got pregnant with our second son and when i was almost 3 months pregnant my husband (and father of both) decided that instead of staying with me and raising our boys he wanted to join the marines and have the life he had been wanting since before we got together.  So he did just that.  He went to basic when i was pregnant and got out the day after our second son was born and my youngest will be 4 in December and has seen his father 4 times.  He also gave up custody of two children he had with his ex (who passed away shortly after our first son was born) to their grandma who ended up adopting them as the courts decided that if he felt that joining the marines was more important than raising his two children who know longer had their mother then he must not want to be a dad.  

I will say I do know a woman, she is my stepsisters bestfriend.  She had two little boys and her husband traveled a lot for his job.  He went out one night with his work buddies and did drink some and was on his way back to the hotel I guess and ended up loosing control of his car and died.  She found out 2 wks after the funeral that she was pregnant.  He always wanted a daughter and that is exactly what she had but now she is raising 2 boys and a girl (all age 6 and under) by herself while adjusting to the death of her husband who was her highschool sweetheart.  Right now though she is having a hard time dealing with it and is going through a party and forget phase I guess.

Answer 2

I got pregnant as a result of being a bit too drunk and therefore being careless with condoms. As soon as I told him, I got the reaction, "EVEN IF its mine, I cant support you". Then he was gone and I had a long think about if I could do it myself. The result is I now have a 4mth old daughter who Im raising alone, and couldnt be happier!! The father is now outta the picture completely. He has never seen her and I havent spoken to him since the day I told him. Men can be such idiots when they dont recognise what a gift a child is...

Answer 3

i am so sorry for your loss. and for your dear husband missing his daughter. you must be a very strong woman.

my husband wasnt thrilled when i got pregnant. but he warmed up to it. i dont think it was ever a question of leaving. and he loves them all ot death now.

i am also completely amazed how many of these woman get pregnant on PERFECT birthcontrol use and the number of men who take off.

these are exactly the guys and woman who SHOULD NOT be having s*x!