Did you plan for your children? Why or why not? Do you regret becoming a parent? Why or why not?

Question

Did you plan for your children? Why or why not? Do you regret becoming a parent? Why or why not?

Answer 1

I didn't plan the first one, but I did plan the second one because I didn't want the first one to be an only child.  Their father turned out to be a dud, to put it mildly, and I regret that my children didn't have a better father.  But I don't regret having them, and never have, even when I was a single parent and it was sometimes very hard managing.

I've certainly been relieved to get a babysitter & get away from the kids for a few hours, but I've never regretted having them.

Answer 2

Yes, we did plan our son. No, I don't regret anything because we have a wonderful baby boy and a great life.

Answer 3

Yes, I planned them, because that's a pretty seismic thing to leave to chance.

No, I don't regret them.  They're the best thing that ever happened to me.

Answer 4

My first child was an accident. The second, we planned for. I had the same due date with  both. Although I was young and single when I first became a parent and trying to get through college, I most definitely do not regret becoming pregnant!! I love my children!!

Answer 5

No, I didnt plan either of them. No I do not regret them. No reason for not planning them, obviously god wanted me to have them when i did and will. And how can you regret such a beautiful lil blessing?

Answer 6

Yes we planned for our son. My husband was getting deployed again and would have to wait for over a year and a half if not.

I don't regret it for a second. Being a "single" parent while my husband is gone for a year is very trying at times but I knew this when we started trying.

Answer 7

No we did not plan our son.....I mean we have known each other for 7 years and have been married for three....So when i did get pregnant we were shocked but i never regret having him and we were ready and able to take on the challenge anyway...I mean if we were not ready i would have been on birth control or made him use protection...I mean that is common sense...If you are not ready use protection but if you are ready go for it...I mean i think you should at least be married and it a stable home and then have a family.....So that is my opinion on that

Answer 8

We did try for our first, but ended up with twins.  That was a plan to have a child- but the 2nd baby born wasn't planned- but SO WELCOME!

We tried to have a baby after 6 years of not trying and not getting pregnant.  We were trying just to let nature take its course and have a baby by surprise but that didn't work for us.

I'm pregnant again with baby #3, not planned.

I do NOT regret becoming a parent!  I love my children with all my heart.  Sure, it's hard, but it's also very rewarding.

Answer 9

yes i planned for my kids. I planned to have kids after i was married and finical stable. I love being a mom. There is days where i \that god wish me and my husband could be alone again and have fun lol. but then i stop and think we do have fun it is just very different when you have kids. And you look at your kids grow and learn it is amazing thing to see.  And watching my husband with my 3 old son rough housing always puts a smile on my face.

but remember be ready t have kids. Make sure you have a good support system and finical stable. cause kids cost money.

Answer 10

My son was FAR from planned. I was 23 yrs old and had JUST gotten back from my honeymoon. We got married January 14th, 2006. I found out I was pregnant a month later. In between that time, I called in to refill my birth control pills. The pharmacist said they were recalled. I remember asking him to please repeat that and then to tell me WHY they were recalled.

I looked into the issue, went online, googled some stuff, found the lot numbers that were recalled, and guess what? There was mine in big BOLD letters!

I got a test because I felt sick, sure enough, pregnant! I bawled my eyes out so much, I was a friggen mess!

Now my son is 20 months old and he’s my WORLD. Never imagined you could love a little person so much like this. I may not have planned him, but I sure as heck don’t regret him. I do wish maybe I had waited a bit longer, but hey, this was out of my control. I did what I was supposed to do, someone else just had a different plan….

My son is the sweetest boy ever and can keep a smile on my face all day long! I don’t regret him one bit!

Answer 11

My first child was a surprise I was 18 and engaged to now my husband, when she was born I was the happiest I had ever been. (my parents however that's a different story)

My second one was planned he was born the same month as my first only off be four days.

My third which hasn't happened yet is planned, but it's alot harder this time to get pregnant than the first two times for some reason.

I'm a happy mom and have a great Husband whom I've been with from the begining for 9 years now.

Answer 12

#1 planned #2, not so much. I wanted a #2 just at a different time.

No I don't regret anything, it's perfect.

****cstar which procedure because I'm looking into this myself.

Answer 13

My children were not planned - either of them.  I was told I would never have children- so they were both a huge surprise!  I had my first at age 21 and my second 5 years later.  Both were under bad personal circumstances and things were very hard.

Do I regret it?  NOT FOR A SECOND!!  I adore my chidlren and cherish them more than anything in my life.  I would give up oxygen before I gave them up.  I would protect them with my life.

In the begining though I thought they were a punishment.  I was ashamed of them.  I regretted it.  But now that I am personally in a better more mature place I can look back and say with confidence that the years of h**l were totally worth it.

They are now 12 and 17 and they are my joy.

Answer 14

No, Johnny wasn't planned.

And I do not regret becoming a parent.  It is the best thing that's ever happened to me! :)

Answer 15

My kids weren't planned, but very welcome! My former relationship may have been very poor and bad for me, but I have a wonderful and beautiful son and wouldn't change a thing. I'm pregnant with my second, and am with the man I will spend the rest of my life with, though this child was not planned, we both wanted children, just didn't think it would happen so early lol.

Answer 16

Well I didn't really, it happened on its own, but then I miscarried, and as many people who miscarry get obsessed with the thought of having a child after that, it happened to me. I became obsessed with having a child, and fell pregnant within a couple of months. I had my little boy, but I didnt realise it was to the wrong man. I had just brought a child into this world who was going to have a split up family before his wee life begins. I feel ashamed about that. But I wouldnt change him for the world now. hes my heart and my soul.

Answer 17

No I never planned them, but I was old enough when I had to stop taking the pill for medical reasons. It took 6 years of unprotected s*x to conceive my first born. She was a happy accident. She was 6 months when we fell pregnant with my son, also not planned. I don't regret it at all. I always wanted to me a mummy. I had my first at 24, which I found a good age

Answer 18

None of our children were planned as such, we knew we wanted children, so if it happened it happened.

I don't regret becoming a parent for a second, my children and wife are my world.

Answer 19

we planned our baby....although we didn't expect to conceive so soon.  I had a depot shot then we decided we wanted to have a baby.  Doctor told me I would have a year before I could get pregnant...and 4 months later SURPRISE!  My little one is due in 2 weeks and I am so excited!  I do not regret him because he forced us to grow up and get out of the party scene and step back to reality.  We got out of our crappy apartment and bought a house and are totally ready for him!

Answer 20

I planned to have 2 children and that's what I have.  The first one was  totally planned, and the second one surprised us, but we were always planning to have a second child, so really only the timing wasn't totally planned.  I was married before we had our children and in my opinion it is best to decide before you get married if you plan to have children or not. I have never regretted having children.  I sometimes wish we had had more than two, but I don't think that we would be have been able to afford it as well and I wouldn't have wanted to work while my children were small.  I didn't have to work when my children were little, but if I were to get pregnant again then I don't think I'd be able to quit my job as it pays for our health insurance.

Answer 21

I did but it didn't work out exactly as I planned.  My last child came after we had thought we were finished with all that.  My husband had a vasectomy and four years later I got pregnant again.   Seems his operation wasn't as permanent as we thought.  I don't regret any of my children even the last one who was a surprise.  They have been a wonderful amazing benefit and I think they keep me from getting complacent and selfish in my old age.   Because of them I learn something new every day.

Answer 22

Yes. Our 2 kids were planned...down to the month they were to be born in...

Answer 23

I planned on someday having kids, but my first came a little earlier than expected.  I was 25, though, and engaged.  so it wasn't nearly as catastrophic as it could have been.  Still, I'm glad it happened because i don't think I ever would have felt ready otherwise.  My second was planned, though.  And no, I don't regret becoming a parent.  My children have made me a better person than any other life experience could have.

Answer 24

no i didnt actually plan on either of them. but i wouldnt change it, i love them both no matter what- made me a better person....

Answer 25

My husband and I had been together for over a year when i got pregnant with my firts. i wasn't taking any birth control, so you could assume I wanted a child. I knew I wanted a 2nd when my son was stil an infant.   They are exactly 4 years apart aside from a few days.  I let god take his course with both children. A month after having my 2nd child, I had a steralization procedure done, which ultimately didn't work.  I'm about 3 months along with my my 3rd.   After this one, they are cutting the tubes out. Even thoughthis was a big accident, i don't believe in killing babies or giving my children away. I'm still unsure and saddened about having another one.  i feel guilty for not wanting another and being pregnant again.  Maybe i am blessed b/c some ppl can't have any. Just look at the TTC q & a.  I will love this one as much as the others, just not ready yet. My daughter turns 1 in 6 days, son turns 5 in 18 days. No regrets with the first 2. We will have to see what happens.