Did you teach your child about s*x ed so they would be better prepared than you?

Question

I didn't really have any s*x ed except for the film in 6th grade. I remember my mom got all dressed up to come to school and see it with me. It was 1965. After I gave birth in 1972, I vowed if I ever had a child in the same predictament the outcome would not be the same as mine. I have a son and I made it a point to educate him and luckily when his baby was born he had been married a year. i never wanted him to go through what i went through.

Answer 1

Yes I will deffinetely talk with my daughter about the birds and bees...with my mom, is was just "Don't have s*x until you are married." thats all I got....and needless to say I got pregnant before I got married...but the story ends well....We have been married for 2 yrs now....

Answer 2

oh absolutely... i can't trust the garbage peddled as s*x education in schools.

Answer 3

My parents were 16 years old when I was born... They had to get married because it was 1962 and I was on the way......

When it came time for me to have s*x ed I was in private school and had it been legal back then my parents would have homeschooled me....

I was married for over 2 years when I got pregnant--because I was ashamed of my own birth story...... I didn't want another child to ever feel they were the reason two stupid teenagers would fake it was made in heaven for an innocent life.....

I got married too young thinking I was old at 18..... Knowing that the s*x ed I had been given by my parents and the private Christian Schools demanded that I save it for my husband.....

My older children are 23 and 24 and both finishing college My son is about to start his career having completed his masters---his girlfiend is 21 and they plan to get married in a few years--they don't live together.... My 23 year old daughter is starting her Masters program and is still with the same boy friend who took her to her prom....

I was prepared for s*x--I was not prepared for a normal timeline of finding out who I was before I got married... I hoped my older children would make the best start in life and not focus on finding the Mate and getting Married before they established who they were....

I am happy with the fact that I didn't make s*x and Marriage the only choice for them.... I made s*x about an important decision--one a person needs to take seriously and plan for--Just as Marriage is an important decision--one a person needs to take seriously and plan for....

Answer 4

Although s*x ed is covered in the school system, i think it leaves  alot to be desired. I make sure that I'm approachable for my son, he can ask me anything at all and will get an honest age appropriate answer, and always has done since he was small. He is 14 now and i think he knows more than some of the people who ask questions on here. I think maybe some people are embarrassed, or maybe they feel that if its spoken about it may encourage youngsters to experiment at an earlier age. At least that's what people are saying to me. My parents made those mistakes of denying information /education to me, and let me say it wasnt the best move on their behalf.

s*x is a very normal and natural part of life, its to be em-brassed.

Answer 5

I've always used proper names for his body parts, which is the beginning. Being in school, I've let him look at pictures and explained about babies. He knows ALL ABOUT IT. I also talk to him about what kind of girl he wants to marry. I tell him things to look for and stay away from. I've told him that he shouldn't be with a girl that has been drinking. Mind you, he's a mature little guy and we've been very open about s*x, but on his level. He knows what intercourse is. I don't know that he understands the concept, but he's familiar with the language. He wants to be a scientist, so he handles it very well. Then he goes to school and tells the teacher everything we've talked about. It's part of life. It's too bad parents make it seem so nasty.

Answer 6

My kids are ages 7 and 9...and I've been talking about sexuality with them for years.  And I have no plans of stopping now.  No one ever told me anything.  I eventually figured most of it out, but it would have been so much easier if there had been some dialog.  This is one area in which I am pro-actively hoping to do better than my parents.

Amazingly, my spouse and I spoke LAST NIGHT about what we would do if one of our kids became a parent earlier than we'd expect.

Answer 7

My birth mother gave birth to me at 17, I gave birth to my son at 19 and my daughter at 20. I don't really want my kids repeating this pattern so we will be having many talks. I want them to enjoy life and have some stability before the kids come.

Answer 8

My oldest isn't quite at the age yet.

I have though given it some long hard thought.

I will be stressing not the "if" you get pregnant that I heard and so many others hear, but rather the "WHEN"

To me "WHEN" is so much more important. It's not a matter of "if" you become pregnant, because unprotected s*x, it's almost inevitable that you WILL become pregnant.

Answer 9

In my home s*x is discussed openly and honestly. I never use cutesy names for reproductive organs and I find ways to bring sexuality into conversations on a regular basis. s*x is as natural as breathing and I refuse to buy into the idea that it is a taboo subject. My eldest daughter aced the s*x ed unit in grade 4 and 5 because she already knew all about menstruation and reproductive organs, male and female. Educating your children is a huge part of parenting and that shouldn't only mean 123's and abc's. Sexual health is another huge topic around here, my eldest daughter is booked for the HPV vaccine in May and condoms are always available in the bathroom. Sure she is only 10 and there is zero chance of her needing them but she knows what they are and why they are so important. People make bad choices based on lack of knowledge and I will not make condoms unknown to my children. She knows that when the time comes all she has to do is grab some out of the box, she also knows that when and if she feels the need to be on the pill all she has to do is ask her pediatrician ( I have already discussed it with him on numerous occasions).

None of this was easy for me. It was horrible actually, who wants to think about their baby going off and boinking someone? The simple fact is that they are going to do it if they want to and you will never be able to stop them. All you can do is give them the proper tools and information so they can protect themselves.