Did you use 12 hrs by 12 weeks? What is your child like now?

Question

I'm just wondering because my sister is at her wits end and very mean since she hasn't been sleeping. I have a friend that used this method and she can't say enough good about it but I'm just concerned on how kids turn out..if the feel neglected or unconfident or have a lack of attachment toward the parents...please share!

Answer 1

I tried controlled crying at around 3 to 4 months and i swear by it.  Within days my son was in the routine of going to sleep on his own at 6:30pm and by 4 months i had totally eliminated night feeds and he was sleeping the full 12 hours (which was great for me as a single mum having to do all the hard bits myself).  My son has never had a problem with attachment and is now a very confident little man (4 and a half).  He copes well in all social situations and knows full well how much i love him (and his father and all the family and friends around him).  In fact he has always been well behaved, with the exception of a phase he is going through now which he is coming out of nearly as quickly as i had hoped.  My son and i have a fabulous relationship, he has lots of friends, as well as being happy with his own company at times, and is very sociable.  So long as your sister does not neglect her child in the day there should be no problems.

Answer 2

I'm not sure what 12 hrs by 12 weeks means - but I assume it's about sleep, because of the details part of your question...?

I hope this helps....? When we had our first baby, back in Jan 2006, our pediatrician told us that after 2 weeks, babies get enough nutrition during the day feedings that they don't NEED to be waking up and being fed all night long. So at almost 3 weeks, we just decided to see how it would work, and fed our son around 10pm for the last time for the night, burped him, changed him, put him in his crib, and he slept the whole night until 7am, and has been sleeping through the night non-stop. Now, if he cries at night, I know something is wrong, because it's not normal for him.

He's healthy, and has no problems, and as for our relationship as parent-child (even my husband) it's great! I'm a stay-at-home mom, and I know my son loves me just as much as I love him, and he loves his daddy a ton as well! He's not lacking confidence, or feeling neglected either. The child isn't going to "spite" you for making them get their sleep. Plus, more sleep keeps their parents sane!!!

Just put the baby down for the night, and even if they cry a little, eventually they will go to sleep, and the sleep time (like, 10pm every night) will be a routine, a habit, and their body clock will know it after 3 or so days. I would go in to check on them, of course, if the baby is crying for like 20 minutes non stop though!!! And you can always peek in when they get quiet... you know, you peek anyway. It's a parent thing. If they're crying and can't calm down, you just go in, pick them up, hush rock and bounce them while you pat their tiny little back, and put them right back in the bed! You holding them makes them feel secure. It works! I promise.

Answer 3

What is 12 hrs. by 12 weeks??? Never heard of it,,?????

Answer 4

Newborns need to be fed on demand.  Almost no newborn should go 4 hours between feeds.  If mom is nursing this can be detrimental to her milk supply and can cause baby to not get enough to eat.  Even if mom is formula feeding every 4 hours is much too long to go between feedings.  Babies fail to thrive on this kind of forced feeding schedule.  A baby must be fed when he/she is hungry, which happens usually every 2-3 hours for the first couple of months.  It's going to be obnoxious; that's how nature makes sure that babies grow and survive.

Sleeping through the night at 12 weeks is very unrealistic.  It takes children until they are 2-3 to actually be able to stay asleep all night.  Babies who 'sleep through the night' are really just letting mom sleep through the night.  They wake several times but put themselves back to sleep.

Try a parenting method that takes care of a child's needs, not the parent's wants.  I promise it will be alright.  My son was fed on demand since birth and started letting me sleep through the night at 3 months.

Edit:  "it's a sleep method of limiting feeding to 4 hours apart up to 12 weeks when they end up sleeping through the night.

2 hours ago

I think the book instructs you to feed on demand for the first 3 months"

So which is it?  Does it limit feedings to every 4 hours (4 hours apart) or does it instruct you to feed on demand?  You can't have both.

Answer 5

12 hours by 12 weeks? I havent heard of this technique before, what is it?