Did your husband or boyfriend leave you when you were pregnant? or when you children were small?

Question

My ex-husband left me when I was pregnant with my second child. He changed his name, left the country (supposedly) and has never visited, called or asked about his children. But he does send me occasional mean and threatening emails. (Lucky me!)

How did you deal with it to help you survive through the emotional roller coaster?

Are you better off now or worse?

*** No worries about me.. I am better off and I am actually happier because he was a cheater and a liar so, with the stress of not knowing where he was and him spending money to support his dating habits, it actually is so much nicer. No more fighting in the house and having him berate and belittle me in front of my children and behind my back. my kids are wonderful and well adjusted. I can't ask for better children and a better life. I love where we live and play. ***

Answer 1

It's not always the husband, ya know.

My wife left her 2 year old son and I to take up with her new boyfriend.  Her boyfriend left his 4 and 6 year old behind with his wife.

My wife bitterly fought paying child support.

Answer 2

Change your email address.

I left 2 ex hubbys for being the dogs they were when my children were still in diapers.

I was much happier too, raiseing all 4 of them ALONE!!

Answer 3

thats is a huge huge turn on for me. a single mother is the most strongest person. i love women with kids and ehr children are  a bonus. i hope things get better. i really do good luck and....

Answer 4

oh wow! good for your and very  happy that you are emotionally and physically stable and not letting some stupid jerk get in the way of your happiness. the only good thing that came out of this is that he left you wonderful children. they are your life now.

i glad youre not some of those women who constantly try to track down a guy who wants nothing to do with him. one day he is going to realize that he made a HUGE mistake, hes going to miss out on watching them grow and start families on their own.

Answer 5

The father of my eldest did the same thing to me. It has been 11 years and I also don't know whether he lives or has died. Time heals all wounds. The sad part is that life that gets left behind. My daughter has not questioned the past yet but I know that the day will come.

Answer 6

My farther left my mum during labour!! he bought them a huge house and kitted it out, little did my mum know he was in 500k worth of debt and that was 21 years ago.

The baylifs came and took everything but my cot and my mum moved in with her brother, she had no job (had to leave to look after me) and at 6 weeks old she made the decision to send me to a childminder everyday, she was a friend and my god mum and cared for me at a dicounted price for a while, my mum go 3 jobs working in the day, evening and writing colums in the football pink (a paper in the old MEN newspaper). she really struggled and eventually she met my step dad, he had no money either and bit by bit they started to save up and buy a house, its was a crappy house but they did it.

she went from job to job getting more and more money and experience. then in 1999 she got lucky and got a decent job and a 20k pay rise. She did that for a month and was picked up by a rival company, she also aquired a further payrise, this continued this way for a long time and now she earns in excess of 130k and heads the largest NHS budget in the world.

She was a single mum left by a pri*k during one of the most painful times in her life, she scraped through and now she has everything she dreamed of and a 21 year old son (me) who has had everything ive ever needed when i was growing up.

Being on your own isnt the end of the world and eventually you will get what you deserve. good luck and sorry you have to go through what you have.

Answer 7

You sound like a strong person, keep doing what you're doing.  I know many young men who have diffuculty with raising a family, they will always resent and punish their family for being tied down.  Leaving you is the best thing he could have done for you.