Did your husband take longer to jump on the homeschooling bandwagon and why?

Question

For homeschooling moms...when you began the decision process to homeschool your children did it take awhile for your husband to "see the light" or did the realization of the improvement in education hit him about the same time?

As a mom that had to deal with the day to day events of public school I found that thoughts of homeschooling definitely came sooner than my husband. In fact, I would say that he's not totally convinced of the idea but is willing to support me. Anyone else want to share their story?

Answer 1

My twin boys attended public kindergarten last year. It was AWFUL.. their are so many negative things that happened.

I am a SAHM and my Husband came home for lunch one day last spring. I told my husband that a child had told my son that he was "going to kill him". Just one of MANY things...

I told my husband that I was worried about them and the things that they were learning. I also said that I was lonely.

He then said, very nonchalantly, "why don't you just homeschool"?

I just hit me then and I decided that I was going to do my research and we talked about it in length and met other HSing families and spoke with teachers that we know.

EVERYONE said that it would be the best thing that we could ever do for our boys. They were RIGHT!

He was ALWAYS confident in me and my abilities and never doubted it for one minute. I have been the one to worry about and stress about them learning enough and all those initial worries.

We have been HSing since Sept. and I LOVE IT and my Hubby is SO HAPPY to have our kiddos home with me.

Don't push him, he will see on his own (in time) how AMAZING and wonderful it is!!!!!

Blessings!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

My husband saw the light way before I did!  He mentioned it years before I ever wanted to think about it.  :)

So, getting him on board when I was ready wasn't a problem.  *grin*

Answer 3

My husband was supportive right away.. But it was b/c he had such a terrible experience with school himself. Plus, he just couldn't handle total strangers watching our son. Also, his/our nephew had started kindergarten right when our oldest son should've started and it has just been a nightmare (mainly it's PS methods of displine/shaming of the child).  So to answer your question, yes...my husband was part of homeschooling from day one. (thank God)

Answer 4

My hubby was with it right away. He was bullied in school and hated the environment in which he was forced to try and learn in. He is a brilliant man and as a child they skipped him grades to try and keep up with his intelligence. He was not mature enough for that to happen. He did not enjoy school at all and was very happy that I had another option for our children.

Answer 5

In a lot of ways, he was a lot more ready for it than I was. I was the one with all the doubts - mainly about myself. But I knew I wanted to homeschool "eventually". My husband said "then we'll do it now" LOL. Now that we are homeschooling, I look back on all my doubts and realize how silly they were. All the hypothetical situations that I had made up in my head held me back from something that seems so natural now.

Answer 6

Although moms are often times the primary instructor in most home school families, I have never thought about it not being a joined decision, or both of us not being of one mind on this subject.

Home schooling is a way of life, as much as it is a alternative way to provide for the children's education.

No, it was definitively something we both agreed on, and it does take all of us to make it work; my husband is just as involved as the children, and I are.

Answer 7

I use to teach in the school systems- both public and private and quite work about 4 years before having our daughter. It was before we even considered having kids that we both decided we would homeschool if we ever had a child. So we are both on the same page. Our daughter is now 5 1/2 and we are having so much fun!!

Answer 8

My parents had already been homeschooling my siblings for 5 years before I was born so I don't really know who said what or who was the first to say x, y or z.

In our family though, it's definitely our dad who feels strongest about us being home-educated.

Both our parents were home-educated up to High school and then they went away to boarding schools. Unlike Mum though, our dad didn't have a particularly good time at school - although he always says he knows that boarding schools have changed beyond all recognition since his days.

If I decided now that I wanted to go to school, I know Mum would give it serious consideration but I reckon I'd have a heaps tougher time getting Dad to even consider the idea of letting me go away to school.

Answer 9

Mine was all for it for the beginning! We watched my sister home school and his sister send hers to public school. He started comparing the life styles of the 2 very different families and realized that he wanted a family more like my sisters. The biggest difference was the school issue and the respect issue. What he saw was that the respect showen from the kids in my sisters family and other home schooled families exceeded those of his sisters kids. He saw that my sisters oldest was learning more and had a drive to learn. His sisters kids not so much.

In just those comparisons he jumped in head first into the shallow end with me!

Answer 10

Oh, I am so glad you asked.  I wanted to homeschool when son was in third grade.  The assistant teacher was a college student who was working part time toward his degree.  He had little patience with the children.  I sat in on a class to see if I could figure out why our son was having problems with this teacher.  This teacher was clueless.  I'm sitting there as the teacher is teaching  WRONG.  He told a student that the word 'can't' did not have an apostrophe because it did not show possession. (???) There were several other examples that I heard that day.  

My son was not learning ...even when the regular teacher was teaching and teaching correctly.  The teachers and counselors all said that our son did well in one on one and in small groups.

My husband did not think that I could teach.  I am not strong in discipline and really am relaxed in my lifestyle.   We started homeschooling after my husband started driving a public school bus.  He came home one day and said 'I think it's time we started homeschooling'.   I did not wait for him to change his mind.

Two weeks into homeschooling, he admitted to me that he had been wrong in thinking that I could not teach.

He saw the difference in our son in that short length of time.

We have been homeschooling for 2 years.  

Sometimes I think that my husband still does not 'get it'.   That's another story.

Answer 11

My husband was the first to bring it up (when our dd was 6 mo), although I had already been thinking about it for a year. He took until gr. 1 registration time hit before actually committing to it. He's a jr. high teacher and really doesn't like the social atmosphere at school.