Did your little one get really clingy around 1yr?

Question

my girl has just turned 1, she is super clingy. but only to me, im sahm - which is most likely the reason.

when it just the 2 of us in the house, she is fine, if anyone else visits, she runs over to me with her arms up - like she is scared almost. if we visit anyone, it takes her a while to get used to where we are. she never used to be like this, anyone else experience this? thanks.

Answer 1

Oh yeah!! Even when his Godparents came (Who he sees about 4 times a week) he would hide with me lol. We had a birthday gathering for him when his little brother was 3 days old (9 days after Finns birthday) and he would barely play with anyone other than me and Daddy!!

He's more than grown out of it now at 17 months. In fact, this morning I took him to nursery, and he just walked off to get his breakfast without even a wave goodbye never mind a kiss!!!

Answer 2

Absolutely. And at 2 1/2, he is still clinging !! My poor wife is usually exhausted and we cannot even have a conversation without him screaming or causing a distraction. He NEEDS to be the center of attention and if we do not give him that attention, he will push the envelope (do things that WILL get him attention -- even a spanking).

He is also shy when in the presence of new people; however when he warms up, he prefers to cling to them !!

With women, he's a big flirt and charmer.

Looking forward to the day that this will pass. It's cute for a season, but not for a lifetime!!

Answer 3

Oh yes. Its just a stage. You just have to grin and bare it for a while. My son did this at 12 months and my daughter is just starting at 11months. I think this is pretty normal. Especially when one parent is at hom all the time. I'm not knocking sahm's as I am one myself :)

Answer 4

My son is 11 months and is starting to do the same thing. I think that it's natural.

Answer 5

She may have learned that mom leaves when someone shows up at the house. Does your babysitter come to visit you and stay with her? Maybe she is letting you know that something is wrong? or maybe she has only learned that mom will leave her in certain situations.

Little ones can get clingy about this age, although mine didn't. She should grow out of it within a year or so. However, if you are really concerned, you could set up cameras in the house to find out what's going on when you aren't there to watch her. I read about this couple saw a drastic change in their child's behavior and they set up camera's and found out that their little one was being abused.

I hope that everything is fine with your little one, just go with your motherly instincts. You know deep inside whether something is really wrong, don't panic. Panic never tells you the truth. Go with your gut.

Hope this helped.

Edit: Sounds like everything is fine and that alot of other people have had the same experience. You sound like a good mom, one who makes sure that her little one is developing normally.

Answer 6

my daughter went through a brief phase of this, it's totally normal. She's very aware of when you're there and as your a stay-at-home mum, and therefore the primary caregiver, she depends mostly on you and she's used to always having you there.

  The most you can do is take her to visit people or to meet up with groups as much as you can. Once she gets used to being around other people more, she'll learn to get less clingy. My daughter went into daycare at 18months, only for 2 days a week, and once she settled in, got over her clingyness. But there's no point in paying for daycare if you're not working to justify it!  

Answer 7

It's a normal part of development, she is becoming more aware of herself and things around her that she likes and dislikes, in a few months she will be quite happy to walk off and do her own thing without a second thought.

Answer 8

Everyone always comments how ridiculously clingy to me our daughter is (11.5 months) but like you - I'm a SAHM and when we are home alone, she is very independent, loud and playful but if someone should come in, she wants me to hold her or be right next to her the whole time.  I think it's a normal phase, but be grateful your little one will still go to others happily - my daughter will only be held by my husband or I at the moment!  It's hard, but they'll grow out of it :o)

Answer 9

I am also a SAHM, my toddler has never had that but my 9month old has recently become very clingy. He is ok if somebody he knows is babysitting at my house but if i leave him at my mum's, gran's or any other relative's house he cries the whole time i'm away. He also doesnt like sitting with other people & clings on to me- especially when he is tired. I think its just a case of having to grin & bare it til it passes x*x

ps. I see Vanilla Rose has returned ^^^^ (I reported!) x*x

Answer 10

Yer ma Cousins one did

Answer 11

Yes. I stay at home, also, I think that can be the reason. And the fact that I still breastfeed makes it even worse. lol. I wouldn't worry...every child responds differently to new environments and new people...she may just be very timid, also. And she's with you most of the time...you're her comfort.