Did your mother place a child for adoption, and how do you feel now?

Question

I'm in the process of writing a book about the thoughts and feelings of the children left behind. Wheather it is a child that was placed for adoption or you have a mother who placed your siblings. How is your relationship with them now? Does your mother have an open adoption with them? Do you think you would have been better off with your birth mother? Do you feel jealousy toward your siblings? Any and all answers are appreciated. Thanks!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

well my mother got pregnant when she was only 13. she gave birth to my sister Gabriella. she gave gabby up for adoption as she knew that as a child she could not afford to take care of another child. i found out about gabby when i was only 9 years old. before then i was (well thought i was) mama's only girl. very close realtionship to my mom. gabby had just turned turned 23 and was trying to find her birth mom. our mom. well i resented my mom for  a little because i couldnt understand how she could give up a baby. however as i grew up and older my mom started talking to all of us about what happened back then. she had been at a party and was seduced by an older man. anyway gabby and i have been very close since. and as for my mother and i. i held a lot of resentment for a long time. however it was after i had my babies that i realized just how hard it would be for a 13 year old to handle. my bond with my mother has never been tighter. gabby has lived a very happy life. her adoptive parents were great with her. now gabby is happily married with 6 kids of her own plus 2 adopted children. she is currently in the process of adopting another.

Answer 3

I had a daughter that was three years old when she was removed from her first family, by a Grandparent.

The siblings wanted to visit her, I wanted to as well, we were

denied visits, as we were not religious. The adoptive Grandparent was religious.

By the time my daughter was seven, her Grandmother, told me, that she wanted to adopt my child. I asked her to delay this. The Grandparent told me that she wanted it done!

This woman told me that I did not have money and she did; therefore she would win if she had to obtain my child through the court system, if I did not sign the adoption papers she would take me through the court system, and make me look real bad, therefore I would stand to lose all of my children.

I signed the adoption papers. I never was allowed to see this daughter; the Grandmother lied to me, she said we would be able to visit the daughter anytime. We were not allowed to see her any time. Now this daughter is an adult. I feel she resents me as well her siblings.It is a harsh world when there are family members deceived . I hurt over this all the time. I wanted to see my child grow up. I know if that Grandmother lied to me, she very likely told lies to my daughter! That isn't easy to write about, nor is your story. Best Wishes! Live for today! Enjoy the Love you find, even if it isn't from your first family.

Answer 4

i was adopted by my grandparents and it was the best thing to happen to me,but yes sometimes i feel jealous of my siblings as i have a brother older than me and a sister older than me and after i was adopted my mother had another child why should she give me up and have the right to have another child,i did have contact with my siblings but they are now living near my birth mother and they dont speak to me anymore,and before you ask no i did nothing wrong,i suppose i feel really angry at them all,

Answer 5

Wow, you are seeking lots of info from this venue. Not exactly a simple quesion you are asking. Maybe if you elaborate, someone can help you out a bit more.

Do you plan to share credits and the profits of your book deal with contributors?

What's the outline of your book?

Which professional sources are you citing?

ETA   Here's a tibit - Just an observation about my siblings who my mother raised after abandoning me.

It seems to affected mom's parenting abilities, she was fearful and distrustful of strangers, overprotective of my bro and sis.As adults one sibling turned into a religious fundamentalist zealot, the other chemically dependant. Both learned of me "out of the blue" as teenagers and it was shocking for them.

Answer 6

yes she put me up for adoption & I feel really bad because I haven't seen her in over 7 yrs & I can't have any contact with her I don't where she is right now or even where any of my family members are I wish I could talk to them I wish I could just hear my moms voice just 1 more time so I couldd tell her I miss her & I love her but I can't.

Answer 7

You want to write a book (better story write about the father;s that have had their children stole from adoption ) I would love someone to write my son's story(maybe it will stop this misjustice) There is no book on the h**l these fathers have to face everyday (looking and worrying about their child while the mother get's all the imfo and moves with her life)

What is shawn's and our relationship Hey we get to travel 3000  miles a month to see him and spend a wonderful weekend with him and then shawn get's to take him back and feel the pain of leaving him again

          siblings  you say  there's Shawn's daughter(from same mother) crys wanting to go but it's to far and shawn couldn't have her home in time(don't want to go to jail for kidnapping his daughter) She has got to see her brother 2 times next time will be july when shawn get's his son for a whole month.

             Couple got to keep the baby(for now,shawn's not giving up) and shawn's right couldn't be termiated.

(PS. before everybody starts feeling sorry for couple they knew about shawn and his wanting his son but didn't care still took him)

Answer 8

When you look through the stack of resolved questions, make a note of any books or websites listed, and be sure to research them as well.

Then, you'll want to interview actual people, instead of copying from strangers.

If you're writing a book on a particular subject, that usually means you have some prior knowledge of the subject. Work from that.