Did your relationship change when you moved in together?

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Answer 1

Yes...I have OCD and I saw just how messy he is! He left socks on the floor (????). It baffles the common sense part of my mind sometimes but I also notice he makes my plate, pulls my chair out and when I don't feel good, he takes care of me when he has to wake up in two hours to go to work. You see the good and the bad but the good always outweighs the pet peeves.  

Answer 2

yes my relationship changed it ended when we moved in together.........Just know that person is always going to be there when you wake up, eat dinner, go to bed etc........And most couples practically spend every night together before they move in so they think it will be the same....WRONG it takes a lot of love to live with someone so good luck

Answer 3

yeah it always changes

Answer 4

Of course your relationship changes when you move in together!  It changes VERY drastically, and it can either be a wonderful, very positive thing or a horrible, very negative thing.

When you move in together, you spend every day together.  You wake up every morning next to the same person, and go to bed with that same person every night.  You see each other at your worst -- unshowered, with bed head, prior to makeup, unshaved, etc.  You're there when one person is sick and has the runs or is vomiting everywhere.  There isn't much privacy anymore, and you learn all those little super annoying habits that they have that you never noticed prior to moving in together (my husband bites his fingernails while he's watching TV.  It drives me NUTS!!) :)

That being said, I feel it's a very positive thing.  Sure it is frustrating at times, but because you spend so much time together you grow such a wonderful bond together.  My husband and I are extremely close to one another.  We're very affectionate -- it's so nice to have someone to snuggle every night while falling asleep.  It's wonderful to know that if you've had a rough day at work you can come home to a great support system who may hold you while you're depressed, or maybe even give you a massage. :)

If you love each other, move in together if you're ready!  It's a GIANT step, and it will either make or break your relationship.  If you're so sure about one another though, I'm sure it will make it. :)

Good luck!

ADD ON:  I do think it's important to mention one more thing.  You need to be able to communicate with one another openly.  Be sure you talk about all your problems openly and honestly or things won't work out.  Give one another space if you need it, but don't push one another away or block one another out emotionally.  Remember, once you live together it's not "your stuff my stuff" it's "our stuff."  !!

Answer 5

My husband and I did not live together, but I think it would be a good idea...things seem to change a little after you get married and the saying is true...you don't know someone until you live with them.

Answer 6

it changed for the better.  thing is...i dont advocate that anyone get married without living with someone first.  you have to fly the trainer before landing on an aircraft carrier, right?  it's the same with marriage.  there are a lot of things that are very easy to obscure, hide, or gloss over when you don't live with someone.  you'd better make sure that you can handle your significant other's 2 AM playstation habit.  you'd better make sure that you can handle your significant others bi monthly vacuuming.  most importantly, when you live together, it forces you to have conflict and work through them.  you can't just "go home and cool off".  you are home.  that is important for marriage.

Answer 7

Yes, he actually got more depend on me.....with cooking and cleaning and being home at a certain time....We had to figure out his space and my space or just time alone in the same apartment....The change was just adjusting to seeing each other all the time......not bad all  

Answer 8

Big time yes, in my case it wasn't good.

Answer 9

yes

and we did not know good relationship skills so that relationship finally failed!

Now that I learned some good relationship skills and tips (google it), I am in a wonderful relationship with another person who also learned some good relationship skills!

try it.........

Answer 10

Ours didn't. People always tried to scare us out of it, but if you and your partner are right for each other then it will be okay. We have lived together now for a year and a half, and its been great. But we only lived together a few months before the wedding, so you might wanna make sure your relationship is going somewhere.

Answer 11

We're talking 1966 here!!!!  An awful lot has changed...so this may be FAR out of date. That said,  I noticed a LOT of changes....I immediately became "the Mommy".  Chores that were shared before became MY chores.  Some good grooming habits disappeared...and thoughtfulness was replaced with 'father knows best'. LOL  And on and on it went for 40 years.