Did your views on things change the older you got..?

Question

When I was younger I said I would never do this that or the other when I got older and had children..

The older I got my views on things changed.

Before my daughter was born I use to say I would NEVER smack her on the hand if she touched something, when she was born, a little smack on the kept her from touching the stove..

Or when I was younger I said I would let my child pick out her own cerfew and bed time..That they would know better when they were tired and I would raise them to trust them to come home at a good time... THEN I had a teenager.. :)

Anyone else change the way they thought the older they got.?

Answer 1

YEP YEP YEP!! i swore that i would NEVER disipline my kids for things my parents did me. HA...that didnt last long. even being i had my child at 17...my views all together changed and are still changing today LOL. you grow and learn more and more each day and this is where the good advice you get from those old timers kicks in lol....i always wondered how they were so smart =) they lived and learned..

Answer 2

Definitely. I think your views on a lot of things change greatly when you become a parent. It's easy to say that you will give a teenager freedom in choosing curfew and bed time, but when you actually have your own child of that age - of course it will change. It's just being a responsible parent, if we all kept the views we had before we became a parent then I doubt we'd be any good.

Before my son was born, I was a naive sixteen-year-old. I didn't even want children and was convinced I'd make the worst Dad ever. I was a selfish, arrogant, heroin addict and I thought I had everything. A child would just get in my way - I couldn't go out every night with my friends if I was a Dad. But then my son was born, a few weeks after my seventeenth birthday. My views on everything changed, even though I thought they never could or would. His Mother left us two weeks later and I was left a single Dad. I realised that I had to change to be a good parent and that's exactly what I did. It took a long time and a lot of tries but I finally got there. I've now been clean for over two years and believe I'm a great Dad.

When you look back, you see how naive you once were. I think until we actually have children of our own, we underestimate the love you can have for a child. That's the reason why we won't let teenagers choose their own curfew, or why you smacked the hand of your daughter. It takes actually having children and bringing them up to realise and it changes everything about you as a person.

Answer 3

all the time baby...all the time we av to change to change with the times...that's inevitable

Answer 4

Absolutely! Though now the only difference is, I realized my mom and dad were right, and I really didnt know everything. I am hoping to raise my children as well as my parents raised me.