Different people!?

Question

me and my girlfriend went to london at the weekend.

we went to tate modern which i loved. what was dissapointing was that my girlfriend said the art was S"*T and that she could do better.

in a long line of differences....just going to a gallery with her makes me realise that i want someone who i can share things like art with..it sounds silly but to me it shows depth!

i know we are all different but, im realising that my girlfriend is very shallow! shes more shallow that ever since she became pregnant.

the person who i used to love, who was interested in things is now gone and is cold, narrow minded, shallow and emotionally un aware of anything or anyone!

i dont know what to do..im thinking maybe things will change but all the signs point to no where with her..im sad..and i want to stay around for my daughter..but her mum doesnt make me happy!

:-(

Answer 1

Oh grow up, so she doesn't like all the same things as you, so f**kin what? How many women share their partners love of football for instance and how many men women's love of shoes?I think the Tate modern's shite too but like things like opera and ballet, how the f**k does liking modern art show you have depth. More likely you're trying to bail out instead of raise your child.

Answer 2

My dear Friends,,,

im so sorry to hear that,,, i think that u need to tell honestly to ur wife that u dont like her respond about art,, in the other way, i hoped u can also sharing problem with her more often,,

every one n every couple have a differences, i also have diffrt with my boyfriends and we often mouth-fight but we realize that diffrt make us One,,, sharing,self control, find solution, apologized each other,, it will help..

tell me after,, email me..

Gud Luck

Answer 3

Perhaps she is feeling the effects of being pregnant? I dont think people can just become shallow? Its a trait thats in the personality, and your just noticing or looking for an excuse?Maybe there are other parts wrong in your relationship and this is showing more?  You can still stay around for your daughter but you shouldn't stay with your gf if your not happy which you obv aren't, but she's pregnant also? Perhaps your missing your gf's affections because of this? No one knows whats going on with your relationship apart from you and your gf, I think a long chat would/should be in order and clear all the concerns

Answer 4

It is difficult for people to change so dramatically and without a reason. May be she is just sending you a message. Is she pregnant? May be she was just really tired (Tate could be heavy for a pregnant woman) and just would like you understand it by yourself, without having to tell you. Is your daughter already born? may be she was asking more  commitment to family issues and less in Arts, or may be she is suffering of some post partum  depression.

I mean, sometimes men and women really talks in different ways, and before thinking she has suddenly changed I will try to listen to her needs in a different way.

At the same time I do understand your feelings: having a baby is not easy for the father too, and sometimes we just would like everything was more calm and easy,  and similar to ... before. Later, when the baby grows, when she will start to communicate, we start finding a new balance.

Good luck

Answer 5

It's a shame you didn't realise what she was like before you got her pregnant.

I used to go out with a girl who could talk about nothing except the latest mobile phone, she didn't have any idea about general current affairs, or ever watch the news or knew what was going on and it drove me mad. You will be very unhappy if you stay, one of the main reasons that some couples can last a lifetime together is that there mindsets are similar and they roughly are the same except for a few things.

Answer 6

oh dear... what a predictament to be in.... people can change over time... so I know what you mean, I think you need to speak to her though - about how different she is now, and that you actually preferred the old her... she might not realise how different shes become... making her aware of it might put her back on track

xx